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Paperback. Condition: Good. Using her wonderfully rich and inviting therapeutic voice along with personal memories and examples drawn from her practice, Lerner gives fear, anxiety, and shame their due. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear-lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us in anxiety, fear, and shame. No one signs up for anxiety, fear and shame, but we can't avoid them either. The more we can look these emotions in the eye with patience and curiosity, and the more we learn to spot their wisdom and mischief, the less grip they have on us. As we learn to respond to age-old emotions in bold new ays, we can live more courageously in the present and move into the future with clarity, humor, and hope.…

Paperback. Condition: Fair. Using her wonderfully rich and inviting therapeutic voice along with personal memories and examples drawn from her practice, Lerner gives fear, anxiety, and shame their due. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear-lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us in anxiety, fear, and shame. No one signs up for anxiety, fear and shame, but we can't avoid them either. The more we can look these emotions in the eye with patience and curiosity, and the more we learn to spot their wisdom and mischief, the less grip they have on us. As we learn to respond to age-old emotions in bold new ays, we can live more courageously in the present and move into the future with clarity, humor, and hope.…

Condition: good. Gently used with minimal wear on the corners and cover. A few pages may contain light highlighting or writing, but the text remains fully legible. Dust jacket may be missing, and supplemental materials like CDs or codes may not be included. May be ex-library with library markings. Ships promptly. …

Paperback. Condition: Good. The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships and personal growth. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel--and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change with clear communication skills. For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation. For decades, this groundbreaking guide to emotional intelligence has provided the essential tools to build stronger relationships and stop destructive cycles: Relationship Patterns: Understand and change the circular dances that keep you stuck, including the common pursuer-distancer dynamic that creates conflict in couples. Effective Communication: Learn to express your anger and needs clearly and constructively, without blaming others or silencing yourself. Family Dynamics: Get to the root of unresolved issues with your family of origin so they stop fueling conflicts in your current relationships. Setting Boundaries: Reclaim your sense of self by learning to say "no" to unfair circumstances and stop the "de-selfing" that leads to resentment.…

Condition: acceptable. This copy has clearly been enjoyedâ"expect noticeable shelf wear and some minor creases to the cover. Binding is strong, and all pages are legible. May contain previous library markings or stamps.

Paperback. Condition: Very Good. From the celebrated author of The Dance of Anger comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us -- and all our relationships -- inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, The Mother Dance teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn't happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.…

Paperback. Condition: Good. From the celebrated author of The Dance of Anger comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us -- and all our relationships -- inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, The Mother Dance teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn't happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.…

Paperback. Condition: Fair. From the celebrated author of The Dance of Anger comes an extraordinary book about mothering and how it transforms us -- and all our relationships -- inside and out. Written from her dual perspective as a psychologist and a mother, Lerner brings us deeply personal tales that run the gamut from the hilarious to the heart-wrenching. From birth or adoption to the empty nest, The Mother Dance teaches the basic lessons of motherhood: that we are not in control of what happens to our children, that most of what we worry about doesn't happen, and that our children will love us with all our imperfections if we can do the same for them. Here is a gloriously witty and moving book about what it means to dance the mother dance.…

Hardback. Condition: Good. In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter. …

Paperback. Condition: Very Good. When The Dance of Deceptionwas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. The Dance of Deceptionunravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth. Truth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling. Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first. Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.…

Paperback. Condition: Fair. When The Dance of Deceptionwas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. The Dance of Deceptionunravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth. Truth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling. Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first. Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths. …

Paperback. Condition: Good. When The Dance of Deceptionwas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. The Dance of Deceptionunravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth. Truth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling. Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first. Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths. …

Hardback. Condition: Fair. In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter. …

Condition: acceptable. Books may contain multiple pages with notes and highlighting. Supplements such as Access Codes, Cd's, etc. are not guaranteed with used book purchases.

Condition: very_good. Cover may have light wear, pages in very good condition and binding is sturdy; may have other light shelf wear or creases. May have notes or highlighting.

Condition: very_good. Cover may have light wear, pages in very good condition and binding is sturdy; may have other light shelf wear or creases. May have notes or highlighting.

Paperback. Condition: Good. "If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won't You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer." --Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong "Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see 'the apology' in quite the same way." --Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, author of Mating in Captivity Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the power of a sincere apology--those two essential words, "I'm sorry"--and how apologizing can repair relationships, resolve conflict, and restore trust. In this insightful guide to emotional healing and relationship repair, Dr. Harriet Lerner offers a clear and compassionate perspective on why apologies are so difficult to give and why they matter so deeply. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies--and why some people refuse to apologize--for more than two decades. Through compelling stories and grounded psychological insight, she shows how meaningful apologies can rebuild trust, repair damaged relationships, and promote genuine healing. Readers learn how to craft a heartfelt "I'm sorry," recognize ineffective or manipulative apologies, and avoid the kinds of apologies that deepen hurt instead of resolving it. Why Won't You Apologize? also addresses the needs of the injured party--the person hurt by someone who will not apologize, tell the truth, or show remorse. Lerner explores what drives both the chronic non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, and why the people who cause the greatest harm are often least able to take responsibility. She helps readers resist pressure to forgive too quickly and challenges the popular belief that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With trademark humor, warmth, and psychological wisdom, Lerner offers a practical and empowering guide to repairing relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and making things right.…

Paperback. Condition: Very Good. "If you want to know why Harriet Lerner is one of my great heroes, Why Won't You Apologize? is the answer. This book is a game changer." --Brené Brown, PhD, LMSW, author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Rising Strong "Harriet Lerner is one hell of a wise woman. She draws you in with deft and engaging prose and then changes your life with her rigorous intelligence and her deeply human advice. I promise that you will never see 'the apology' in quite the same way." --Esther Perel, MA, LMFT, author of Mating in Captivity Renowned psychologist and bestselling author of The Dance of Anger sheds new light on the power of a sincere apology--those two essential words, "I'm sorry"--and how apologizing can repair relationships, resolve conflict, and restore trust. In this insightful guide to emotional healing and relationship repair, Dr. Harriet Lerner offers a clear and compassionate perspective on why apologies are so difficult to give and why they matter so deeply. Dr. Harriet Lerner has been studying apologies--and why some people refuse to apologize--for more than two decades. Through compelling stories and grounded psychological insight, she shows how meaningful apologies can rebuild trust, repair damaged relationships, and promote genuine healing. Readers learn how to craft a heartfelt "I'm sorry," recognize ineffective or manipulative apologies, and avoid the kinds of apologies that deepen hurt instead of resolving it. Why Won't You Apologize? also addresses the needs of the injured party--the person hurt by someone who will not apologize, tell the truth, or show remorse. Lerner explores what drives both the chronic non-apologizer and the over-apologizer, and why the people who cause the greatest harm are often least able to take responsibility. She helps readers resist pressure to forgive too quickly and challenges the popular belief that forgiveness is the only path to peace of mind. With trademark humor, warmth, and psychological wisdom, Lerner offers a practical and empowering guide to repairing relationships, setting healthy boundaries, and making things right. …

Condition: good. Gently used with minimal wear on the corners and cover. A few pages may contain light highlighting or writing, but the text remains fully legible. Dust jacket may be missing, and supplemental materials like CDs or codes may not be included. May be ex-library with library markings. Ships promptly. …

Paperback. Condition: Good. In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter. …

Paperback. Condition: Fair. In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter. …

Soft cover. Condition: Very Good. Very Good Paperback 9781591856092.

Condition: good. Books may contain some notes and highlighting. Supplements such as Access Codes, Cd's Dust Jackets, etc. are not guaranteed with used book purchases.

paperback. Condition: Fair.

Hardback. Condition: Good. The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel--and certainly our anger is no exception.Anger is a signal and one worth listening to, writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.…

Hardback. Condition: Good. Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives. &nbsp.…

Paperback. Condition: Good. Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, and that conflict brings only pain, making effective conflict resolution seem impossible. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self, the foundation of true self-respect. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths during difficult conversations with the most important people in their lives. Based on decades of clinical work, Dr. Lerner offers clear, evidence-based strategies to transform your relationships: Find Your Authentic Voice: Stop losing yourself in your most important relationships and learn to speak your mind and heart with clarity, even when you feel unheard. Navigate Communication Problems: Move beyond fights that go nowhere. Understand the common patterns--like silent men and angry women--and discover how to make conflict an opportunity for growth. Set Healthy Boundaries: Clarify your "bottom line"--the values and limits you won't compromise. Learn to say what you will and won't accept to preserve your integrity and well-being. Understand Your Family Dynamics: Discover how your first family taught you (or didn't teach you) to speak, and how to unlearn patterns of silence or frustration that are holding you back.…

Hardback. Condition: Good. Following a unique format perfect for today s world, the renowned author of The Dance of Anger gives us more than one hundred rules that cover all the hot spots in long-term relationships. It s a go-to guide brimming with Lerner s signature clarity, wit, and warmth. Couples today operate in a time famine. One or both parties are likely to be hit by one stress after another, and marriage is the first thing to suffer. Here are memorable, easy-to-grasp rules to remind readers of their own good common sense or to help them get off automatic pilot and do something different. Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ( He won t talk or She doesn t want sex ) as well as modern ones (your partner s relationship with technology). You ll also learn how to: Calm things down and warm them up Talk straight and fight fair Listen well as a spiritual practice Get a grip on intensity and over talking Connect with a distant partner Survive the unique challenges of children, stepchildren, and difficult in-laws Follow a twelve-step program to overcome defensiveness Know how and when to draw the line Take back your marriage when things fall apart So here it is a treasure chest of lively, practical advice to help you navigate your relationship with clarity, courage, and joyous conviction. …

Hardback. Condition: Very Good. Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives. &nbsp.…

Hardback. Condition: Fair. The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel--and certainly our anger is no exception.Anger is a signal and one worth listening to, writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change.For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.…