THE PERSON I USED TO BE: Finding Myself Through the People I Once Blamed (The Becoming Series)
Language: English
Published by Independently published, 2026
- Softcover
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- Title
- THE PERSON I USED TO BE: Finding Myself Through the People I Once Blamed (The Becoming Series)
- Author
- Kuan, Miya
- Publisher
- Independently published
- Publication year
- 2026
- Condition
- New
- Binding
- Soft cover
- Language
- English
- ISBN 13
- 9798194312665
- Series
- Book 1 of 5: The Becoming Series
What if the people who trigger you most are revealing something you have never learned to see in yourself?
For years, Miya Kuan believed that achievement, approval, being chosen, and being understood would finally make her feel enough.
But beneath the ambition and independence were quieter patterns: comparison, fear of rejection, the need for validation, emotional reactions she did not fully understand, and old beliefs formed long before she knew they were shaping her life.
The Person I Used to Be is an intimate journey into what happens when you stop asking only “Why did they do this to me?” and begin asking a more powerful question:
“What is this showing me about myself?”
Through personal reflection, practical exercises, and memorable frameworks, this book explores how childhood beliefs become adult patterns, why certain people trigger us so deeply, how we confuse external validation with self-worth, and why healing requires both compassion and responsibility.
Inside, you'll explore how to:
- Recognize the beliefs and emotional patterns you learned early in life
- Understand why certain people and situations trigger you
- Separate present reality from old emotional stories
- Stop seeking your worth through achievement, approval, and being chosen
- Pause before reacting and respond with greater self-awareness
- Heal the parts of yourself you once judged or abandoned
- Take responsibility without blaming yourself for everything
- Build healthier boundaries without losing compassion
- Release resentment, control, and expectations you can no longer carry
- Make peace with the person you used to be
This isn't a book about becoming perfect.
It's about understanding why you became who you became—and realizing that your past may explain your patterns without having to decide your future.
You don't have to hate the person you used to be in order to outgrow her.
You only have to see her clearly enough to choose differently.
The Person I Used to Be is Book One of The Becoming Series, a journey from understanding your past to consciously choosing who you become next.
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