Bella Ragazza

BREAKING THE CYCLE OF UNTREATED TRAUMA.

Loyalty to the family at any cost is a broken model. This is a new generation of adult children. This book is a poignant look at the tragedy of untreated trauma passed down from generation to generation, and the adult children who are taking a stand to break the cycle.

The face of trauma, and secondary emotional/mental illness is NOT what you think.

Being written out of your child's life is not a legacy any parent wants to leave. Yet, it's so common today. Many adult children are on the brink of disengaging if they haven't done so already.

Many estranged parents suffer in silent remorse with little support or understanding. The judgment in this space is real. As parents of estranged children, we are often told they will eventually come around, or we find reasons to stay in our anger, hurt, and victimhood. Neither thought process allows for true healing.

It's time to start talking about this tragic circumstance that generations have swept under their rugs, and into the recesses of their minds, while families are still intact. This book is my journey of healing, from my own traumatic past, my struggle with depression and suppressed rage and the realization that I paid my own wounds forward.

Many people are unaware that their past dictated much of their present. Or, that even IF they had little to do with their child choosing to break ties, that perhaps their child needed attention during younger, formative years.

I share my story so other parents know they are not alone. So adult children can see their parents (hopefully) through a lens of compassion, and to bring us not necessarily to reconciliation, but to serve the Highest Good—finding a genuine understanding of each other's struggles and points of view.

PLEASE HELP ME RAISE AWARENESS AND START THE CONVERSATION AROUND THIS TABOO TOPIC.

Our children are not trying to punish us. They are fighting for their right to a healthy life, even at the expense of cutting ties.

IT'S THE WORLD'S WORST BREAKUP.

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Bella Ragazza means "beautiful girl" in Italian, and is the pen name I chose to write under for anonymity and to protect my family.

I am a passionate facilitator of uncomfortable conversations, shining the light on trauma and emotional unrest to:

Ditch the shame

Heal the soul

Push people forward

Advocate for getting professional support

Share truths about trauma

Discuss hidden illness

Remove the public masks

Preach forgiveness and love

THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT.

PLEASE SHARE THIS BOOK WITH SOMEONE WHO NEEDS TO KNOW THEY AR NOT ALONE.

Together we can heal.

Love and light,

Bella