Shane O'Brian

Shane O'Brian is the seventh of twelve children and he values family life to his core, especially following the trauma he and his children endured as they wove their way through a high conflict divorce.

Divorce can be devastating. The physical, psychological, and financial toll it exacts upon a family is incalculable, especially when children are involved. A true story told from the perspective of a loving father. I was not aware that my seemingly wonderful wife was a narcissist who for years had been having an affair with her married coworker. My marriage ended in a two and a half year saga that culminated in a bench trial. This self-help book is intended as a guide for the millions of unfortunate men (and women) that have to endure the destruction of their marriage as well as the end of their family.

In this memoir I detail the steps to take from the time you first hear “I want a divorce” to the day you sign the final decree of divorce and everything in-between. This is not a book of hate and despair but one of overcoming and hope in the face of hopelessness. It details ways to hold your head up, stay positive, and maintain your sense of civility while enduring insanity. In the end, it is the kids that truly suffer the most. My goal is to lessen their suffering as well as yours.

The hard lessons learned while dealing with narcissistic personality disorder were ones that I knew I had to share. There are a lot of books out there about NPD but not many that come from a father's perspective. Dad's need divorce advice.

My hope is that after reading this book you will take away a sense of knowing that you will get through this time in your life, and one day everything is going to be normal again. You are not alone.

You can find me at www.survivinghighconflictdivorce.com or IG shaneobrian74 and FB Shane O'Brian. You can also email me at shaneobrian74@gmail.com.

I want to help you find peace.

Shane O'Brian