Unconditional Love (Paperback)

Paperback. "Unconditional Love: An Adoption Story - Love, Loss, and Legacy" is Carlos E. Harding's memoir about a life marked by the rarest kind of love: the kind that asks for nothing in return. It is a personal story, a tribute to the parents who chose him, a chronicle of his search for his biological origins, and a guide for everyone touched by adoption. Carlos was born on November 15, 1974, in Leon, Nicaragua, a colonial city on the edge of revolution. The story begins with Dr. Benjamin Lanzas, a physician with a "heart of gold" who attended his birth and treated his biological mother with dignity at the most vulnerable moment of her life - the first link in a chain of unconditional love that would accompany Carlos always. That chain continued with his adoptive parents: Carlos Arturo Harding Lacayo, an engineer of deep generosity and integrity, and his mother Jenny Tefel Gonzalez, born in Mexico of Jewish heritage, who loves her four children "not equally in the sense of fairness, but equally in the sense of abundance." It included Victoria Flores - "Tata" - his mother's nanny decades earlier and later his own second mother, and a childhood on the family farm, where even the cows had names and the work taught lessons no school could. But the memoir rejects sentimentality. Carlos writes bluntly that not everyone is built to love an adopted child as their own, and that this is not a judgment, but the truth. He confronts the wounds left by relatives who treat "adopted" as a permanent asterisk, the doubt that never fully disappears even in a home that gave no reason for it, and the silent fear of the adopted child of being abandoned - a fear that resurfaced powerfully when his mother faced cancer. He also recounts his own missteps, including a 105-day first marriage that became a crash course in self-discovery before he found the love that would bring stability to his life. The turning point arrives in a wrapped box: a DNA test kit, a gift from his wife after three mini-strokes and a heart attack turned his genetic history into a medical necessity. What follows is a years-long search through silence and rejection, dead ends and unexpected kindness: the decisive call from a friend, the revelation of a biological father who had passed away 20 years earlier, and a first video call with a half-sister that blossomed into daily conversations and a genuine new family. Carlos is honest about both sides of discovery - doors opened with love, and doors that remained closed.Loss is woven through all of it. The death of his father on September 20, 2024 - "the saddest day of my life" - holds the memoir's deepest reflection: that unconditional love does not end with death, but continues in every decision, every act of kindness, every relationship built by the one who received it. The final chapters turn the memoir into a legacy: a letter to adoptive parents about the responsibility of telling their children the truth about their story; a guide to adoption trauma and the wounds that love alone cannot immediately heal; and a warm letter to adopted children and teens, assuring them that their feelings are normal and that their story began with a brave act of love. In the end, the book comes full circle - from a delivery room in Leon to a sunset in Miami, where Carlos, now a father himself, understands that identity is a tapestry woven from many sources, but character comes from the daily choice to love without conditions. His conclusion: in a fractured world, loving unconditionally remains our greatest human achievement. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from multiple locations in the US or from the UK, depending on stock availability. …