Suffocating in Plain Sight: Understanding Toxic Relationships, Cultural Silence, and the Courage to Leave (Paperback)
Language: English
Published by Ajibade Academic Publishing, 2026
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Paperback. What is happening to you is not your fault.Emotional abuse without physical violence is among the most serious, and most consistently misread, forms of intimate partner harm. It leaves no bruise that a doctor can photograph, no incident that a friend can point to. It leaves people exhausted, confused, and convinced that something is wrong with them, when the truth is that something has been done to them.Drawing on more than two decades of clinical practice and academic teaching in mental health nursing, Dr Benjamin Ajibade examines why coercive control is so difficult to name, why leaving is never as simple as walking away, and what genuine recovery actually requires.Suffocating in Plain Sight moves through three movements. The first names what emotional abuse is, why it hides in plain sight even from the person living inside it, and what it does to the body and brain over time. The second examines the real barriers to leaving: cultural silence, religious teaching weaponised to demand endurance, financial entrapment, the impossible calculus of children, and the slow erosion of identity that makes a person forget who they were before. The third turns toward what comes after: the mental health cost of staying, the long and often non-linear process of deciding to go, and what courage and recovery actually look like once the decision has been made.Each chapter is grounded in composite case studies drawn from clinical experience and the published research literature, spanning a deliberately wide range of genders, cultures, faiths, and circumstances. This is a book that refuses to treat intimate partner abuse as a single story. It is written for: Anyone in or near a relationship that has started to feel like it is taking more than it givesHealthcare professionals, mental health nurses, social workers, and counsellors who want to ask better questionsRacially minoritised communities, where cultural and religious silence can make harm harder to name and leaveFaith leaders and educators who are often the first point of contact for someone in crisisReaders of the author's memoir, Love Is Not Enough, who want to go deeper into the dynamics it exploredSuffocating in Plain Sight does not offer easy answers. It offers something more durable: an honest, rigorously researched account of how harm is sustained, what makes it so hard to see, and what it takes, slowly and imperfectly, to choose yourself."Written with declarative precision and humanity. Ajibade names what has been suffocating in plain sight, without pathologising the people or the cultures he writes about."- Professor Catherine Hayes, Professor of Health Professions Pedagogy and Scholarship A clinically grounded examination of emotional abuse, coercive control, and the barriers that keep people trapped in toxic relationships. Drawing on two decades of mental health nursing practice, this book names what suffocates in plain sight and asks what it takes to choose yourself. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from multiple locations in the US or from the UK, depending on stock availability.…
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- Title
- Suffocating in Plain Sight: Understanding Toxic Relationships, Cultural Silence, and the Courage to Leave (Paperback)
- Author
- Benjamin Ajibade
- Publisher
- Ajibade Academic Publishing
- Publication year
- 2026
- Condition
- new
- Binding
- Paperback
- Language
- English
- ISBN 10
- 1066761345
- ISBN 13
- 9781066761340
What is happening to you is not your fault.
Emotional abuse without physical violence is among the most serious, and most consistently misread, forms of intimate partner harm. It leaves no bruise that a doctor can photograph, no incident that a friend can point to. It leaves people exhausted, confused, and convinced that something is wrong with them, when the truth is that something has been done to them.
Drawing on more than two decades of clinical practice and academic teaching in mental health nursing, Dr Benjamin Ajibade examines why coercive control is so difficult to name, why leaving is never as simple as walking away, and what genuine recovery actually requires.
Suffocating in Plain Sight moves through three movements. The first names what emotional abuse is, why it hides in plain sight even from the person living inside it, and what it does to the body and brain over time. The second examines the real barriers to leaving: cultural silence, religious teaching weaponised to demand endurance, financial entrapment, the impossible calculus of children, and the slow erosion of identity that makes a person forget who they were before. The third turns toward what comes after: the mental health cost of staying, the long and often non-linear process of deciding to go, and what courage and recovery actually look like once the decision has been made.
Each chapter is grounded in composite case studies drawn from clinical experience and the published research literature, spanning a deliberately wide range of genders, cultures, faiths, and circumstances. This is a book that refuses to treat intimate partner abuse as a single story. It is written for:
- Anyone in or near a relationship that has started to feel like it is taking more than it gives
- Healthcare professionals, mental health nurses, social workers, and counsellors who want to ask better questions
- Racially minoritised communities, where cultural and religious silence can make harm harder to name and leave
- Faith leaders and educators who are often the first point of contact for someone in crisis
- Readers of the author's memoir, Love Is Not Enough, who want to go deeper into the dynamics it explored
Suffocating in Plain Sight does not offer easy answers. It offers something more durable: an honest, rigorously researched account of how harm is sustained, what makes it so hard to see, and what it takes, slowly and imperfectly, to choose yourself.
"Written with declarative precision and humanity... Ajibade names what has been suffocating in plain sight, without pathologising the people or the cultures he writes about."
— Professor Catherine Hayes, Professor of Health Professions Pedagogy and Scholarship
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