The Slow Undoing (Paperback). This item is unavailable.The Slow Undoing (Paperback)

Paperback. You're fine. You've always been fine.That's the problem.You show up. You reply. You hit deadlines and workouts, cry in the car, and tell everyone you're fine - because you believe it.You learned early which version of you got love. Competent. Easy. Low-maintenance. Never needing anything. It worked so well you forgot it was a performance - and now you can't find who's underneath it.This is a book about putting that version down.Not a five-step programme. Not a before-and-after. Just the slow, honest, undignified work of unlearning who you were rewarded for being.The Slow Undoing is for the reliable one - the high achiever who's great at meeting everyone's needs and no longer sure which parts of themselves they chose freely. The guilt that arrives before you've done anything wrong. The exhaustion sleep doesn't touch. What changes when you stop performing.Inside: Why functioning and being fine aren't the sameHow to say no without three reasons and an apology - and hear no without taking it personallyWhat rest looks like when it isn't earned firstWhy guilt lies, and how to spot the old alarmA workbook and reflection space, so this becomes something you doWritten by Shikha Katare, from the other side of it - not healed and finished, but far enough along to hand you the map she wishes she'd had.You don't need to have read anything first. If you've read You're Not Fine., this goes further. If not, start here.Come as you are. Let that be true. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from our Sydney, NSW warehouse or from our UK or US warehouse, depending on stock availability.…