The Magic Cake: The Seven Ingredients of a Relationship-Ready Person. This item is unavailable.The Magic Cake: The Seven Ingredients of a Relationship-Ready Person

A former friend once said to me, “I could have had him.” She was talking about the man I was in love with, who is now my husband. This person viewed ‘getting’ a relationship as if it were a fishing expedition. What she missed was that finding a true love relationship has nothing to do with fishing and a lot to do with becoming the person someone else wants to be with. There are three big questions to ask and answer as we proceed down our relationship-ready path: What needs to be developed in ourselves? Who have I picked or who do I usually pick and why? And if you are already in a relationship, what do we need to learn in order to make our relationship work? Creating a true love relationship with another asks us to develop specific qualities in ourselves. These seven qualities or ingredients are the key to “making a magic cake” with our beloved. Making this magic relationship also requires that we trust we can manifest this person – a person who we love, a person who adores us and who wants to build a relationship with us. In this book, you will read stories about other couples and their struggles and some of my stories as well. You will learn what makes a relationship work, and what does not. And you will be guided to develop these ingredients, becoming that person who can manifest the relationship of their dreams.

I grew up with three siblings, a father who was an illustrator and an artist and a mother who was a social worker and very 'practical.' Guess I got some of both. As a child I loved books, animals and anything creative. As I grew up and followed a creative path, it became clear to me that despite facility in the areas of art and creativity, I wasn't so good at standing up for myself or taking care of myself in relationship to others. I found myself unable to be fully empowered and after a particularly difficult relationship, I entered a 'dark night of the soul.' Reevaluating my priorities, I began to focus on a variety of learnings, teachings, workshops and therapy. I wanted more than anything to have full ownership of myself, to be able to walk through the world without fear and in full possession of my value as a human and spiritual being. As a result, my life has been focused on personal transformation and growth for many years. This focus has become what my life is about and is now what I continue to value and learn, as well as give back to the world. I have integrated the experiences I have gained navigating life's challenges into my work - my clinical skills and my writing. I love the work of assisting others in moving from pain or frustration to greater empowerment, satisfying relationships and joyful lives. I've also written WeConcile - an online system to help couples which is coming out soon.