Has women's fervent search for equality gone overboard? Are their lives better at present? What are the ramifications for men, relationships and the family unit?
Women have always been the better sex.
Second only to their ability to bring life, women's best and most fascinating and almost innate quality is femininity! This makes them the more beautiful, graceful, classier and sought-after sex.
The ability to bring life is one of immense importance and it constitutes a big part of their superiority to men.
The trouble is, women of late have seem to forgotten a few of their intrinsic attributes, or worse, they appear to believe that most of these qualities represent the past - a past when they indeed were mostly feminine but also considered inferior to men and were treated thus. Therefore, to an extent equating gentlemanliness and femininity with weakness, sexism and the patriarchy.
The search for equal rights and opportunities, though of the highest importance, has in recent times wrongly driven women to look for 'equal in everything'! What women have bemoaned for millennia: namely, the way men behave in relation to sex and relationships has now, in the western world, become almost the standard behaviour they exhibit.
Women thus began to be and act less like a feminine, graceful women and settled somewhere in between a woman and a man. This was inevitably going to affect men as well, and indeed it has.
Femininity is the human manifestation of art. Femininity in its classic definition is the way the aesthetic (artistic part of the) human mind perceives the most beautiful, most graceful and classy way of being, moving, behaving, speaking and thinking. This quality was naturally best portrayed by the gentler sex, the one that in its appearance is more delicate, less rough, more art-like; women.
I believe that the reduced inclination to be feminine (which includes grace and class) and the process of individualism we are all going through are the major causes for many of society's illnesses of late. Femininity is a vastly important aspect of every type of interaction and relationship between women and men. Life cannot be lived without differences. Femininity is the one major distinction between the genders that makes everything beautifully different. The mistaken and unfortunate belief that femininity means weakness and the attempt to muzzle and musk it and try to be more like the average man in the way they speak, move and behave (men can, why can't we?), and thinking that all of this makes more equality is a lose-lose situation! Most such women don't realise that they are actually reducing themselves to a lower level, they are stooping to the level of the average man.
Gentle, delicate, classy and graceful are far superior to 'cool', rough, tough, 'easy', or thinking primarily of oneself and physical self-satisfaction. We can have a beautiful world based on two DIFFERENT sexes, a world whose fundamental foundation is the family unit, where children learn about love, trust, responsibility and sharing - practically the only place where one can truly acquire these values.
This book is written from the point of view of a man who greatly appreciates women and admires their quality of femininity.
A true women-empowerment book
Ayal was born and raised in Israel. After completing his military service at 21, Ayal started to travel the world searching for answers to a few key questions that had been troubling him since a young age, namely, which society or country in the world is the most accommodating to an idealist, artist and a romantic. Ayal spent time in the US, England, Germany, France, Romania, South Africa and Australia, alternating between these countries and Israel, until 2013 when he decided to make Poland more of a permanent home for himself. In 2000 Ayal became a therapist and that has been his main occupation since. Being a musician from an early age, he also has been working as a musician playing shows in cafés, restaurants, clubs, weddings and private parties during his time in Poland. One of the reasons why Ayal chose to live in Poland was the old-fashioned ways of the Polish people, their respect for women, the femininity of women and the interrelations between women and men. Spending all of his life in western countries, to him, living in Poland was a bit like going back in time and living in a classic black & white movie, a time where men were men and women were women, with grace and class. Aware of the changes occurring around the world (including Poland) with regard to femininity - the reduction in inclination to be feminine and the view of femininity increasingly as a weakness as well as a thing of the past, along with the deterioration of the family unit and the health of relations between women and men in general - Ayal felt that the old and beautiful world is rapidly disappearing and that something should be said about it. And what better way to voice your ideas and concerns than by writing a book?
