20 Lessons That Build a Man's Family: A Conversational Mentoring Guide

Every man is born to be a leader to the family God gifts him with. But becoming that leader takes effort, and today’s culture offers plenty of misguided advice and skewed views of what it means to be a man.

Author and international speaker Vince Miller knows from experience how mentorship and discipling can help overcome hard childhoods and toxic masculinity, guiding men to a better understanding of family leadership.

Follow the BUILD process through these 20 lessons, forming a cornerstone of study and discussion that you can share with family, friends, and peers.

Start today to grow your character according to God’s design, and become the leader your family needs—and you were made to be!

“Vince is a man of integrity, a man of character, and, of course, a resolute man. Through his practical, Bible-based writing and speaking, he is rapidly becoming one of the most influential leaders of men in the church. When Vince speaks, men listen. Gentlemen, take my advice, read this book, and get building!”

Jim Daly, President – Focus on the Family

“Vince Miller’s clarion call to men undeniably captures the heart and inspires action. He has a unique ability to challenge and motivate men in positive ways that translate to dynamic results. His commitment to communicating God’s truth in a reachable and applicable way makes this resource an invaluable tool in the life of every man.”

Dave Mergens, Men’s Pastor

“Vince Miller is a profound leader of men. His ministry has been transformational in my personal growth as a leader. His content is excellent at informing and guiding men to dig deep and face important challenges together, whether it be one-on-one or in a group setting. I am very grateful that through Vince’s ministry, I have formed strong relationships that will last a lifetime.”

Mike Cunningham, Men’s Leader

“Vince Miller is a man whose life, speaking, and leadership development ministry is centered on the gospel of Jesus Christ. The fruit of Vince’s life and ministry produces leaders who are personally challenged toward maturity in Christ and are able to train and equip others to spiritual maturity through developing a dependence on God and practical knowledge and application of His Word. Vince’s insight into the Bible and how he challenges you to apply the gospel to how you live and lead will help you build your family on the solid foundation of Jesus Christ.”

John Dickerman, Men’s Leader

“Vince Miller is a game-changer! He has struck the perfect balance of relevant content, timeless wisdom, and effective methodology. There are no games or gimmicks, just bold truth and a compelling invitation to go all in!”

Tyler Van Eps, Mentor and Men’s Leader

“Vince understands that defining manhood is no simple task and that every culture from the beginning of time has their own set of standards. God’s plan A for building better men is for them to actively engage in the lives of other men. We see it consistently throughout the Bible. Men learn how to be men from other men – period. I never understood this until I met Vince. It’s because of his dedication and passion for building better husbands, fathers, brothers, sons, leaders, and men of God that I am a better man.”

Erin Hauber, Men’s Leader

“Men’s reactions to Vince’s message consistently reveal that deep down, most desire to be men of character but don’t always know how or have the courage to do so. Vince’s ministry provides potent messages and tools that can and have changed men, giving them the ability to carry out lives of leadership with a focus on God. Vince’s raw and emotional testimony, along with his deep-rooted desire to mentor, reshapes and restores men spiritually – which, in turn, benefits countless family members and loved ones.”

Eric Bryhn, Men’s Leader