Finding Your Authentic Self

Finding Your Authentic You: The Fight to Become You
By Dr. Paul Gavoni

This isn’t a memoir. It’s not a feel-good self-help book. And it’s definitely not another dose of toxic positivity disguised as personal growth.

This is a behavioral blueprint for getting out of your own way.

Written by Wall Street Journal and USA Today best-selling author Dr. Paul Gavoni, Finding Your Authentic You blends raw personal stories with the science of behavior to help you break free from the patterns that keep you stuck—without sugarcoating the process.

Dr. Gavoni isn’t some self-proclaimed guru. He’s a fighter, a father, and a behavior analyst who’s faced his own cycles of anxiety, over-functioning, and self-doubt. And rather than mystifying the path to change, he lays it bare—showing how you can leverage the science of human behavior to stop performing, start aligning, and build the version of you that reflects what really matters.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things but still feel disconnected, exhausted, or unseen—this book will show you why. And what to do about it.

Inside this book, you’ll learn:

• Why you're not broken—just reinforcing the wrong patterns
• How behavioral blind spots quietly sabotage your goals
• What “authenticity” really means from a behavior analytic perspective
• How to shift from survival behaviors to value-driven actions
• And how to fight for the version of you that doesn’t just look confident—but actually is

This book is just over 14,000 words by design. It’s meant to be read in one sitting or revisited in small doses. The size is intentional—because insight doesn’t need to be long-winded to create change.

This isn’t a book of magic. It’s a book of momentum—behavior by behavior. Through real-life examples, science-backed strategies, and a brutally honest look in the mirror, Finding Your Authentic Self offers a practical path to reclaim your life through awareness and behavioral alignment.

Authenticity isn’t a discovery. It’s a discipline.
And that fight? It’s worth it.

Praise for Finding Your Authentic Self
"Humility and grace guide his writing, while early pain and fear directed his learning, with enough love to keep on keeping on. In the end, authenticity through behavior clarifies purpose and our vision of the future self we wish to be. He offers us examples, science, and steps to guide us. You will come away, as I did, wanting more." - A. Darnell Lattal, Ph.D

"If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things but still feel exhausted or unseen, this book is for you. It’s not magic, it’s momentum. Page by page, it helps you move closer to the version of yourself that isn’t just confident but deeply grounded in purpose." -Dr. Kisha Bellande-Francis

"This book is a MUST READ. I couldn’t put it down. It is so well written and compelling. Dr. Paulie Gavoni loaded this up with behavior analytic gold – it will help you create a better, happier, more effective life." Dr. John Austin

"Finding Your Authentic Self is a rare and necessary offering. With unflinching honesty and behavioral precision, Dr. Gavoni guides us through the messy, beautiful process of returning to the wholeness that was never truly lost, only buried." -- Dr. Nasiah Cirincione-Ulezi

"I challenge you to put this book down without having found yourself on a page, and unchanged. Daring to be more vulnerable than most, Paulie shows us how to be better behavior analysts by embracing who we are, how we got here, and how we can reach others with more understanding and empathy." Dr. Sorah Stein

"It’s not only one of the best personal development books I’ve read, it’s also one of the most powerful leadership books I’ve ever come across." -Carlos Del Rio

Dr. Paul "Paulie" Gavoni, an esteemed behavior scientist, educator, and leader, has shaped human performance and organizational leadership over the span of nearly three decades. In roles such as COO, Vice President, School Administrator, and School Turnaround Manager, he's unified his innovative approach through a dedication to human behavior science, aiming to enhance performance and leadership across various sectors.With deep knowledge of organizational behavior science, Dr. Gavoni tackles real-world problems, candidly addressing the shortcomings in performance improvement and change management. His ability to highlight practical solutions, all firmly grounded in behavioral science, emphasizes his unwavering integrity. He employs this science to foster engaging and highly productive environments, adhering to a philosophy that cultivating excellence in employees naturally leads to an environment that supports the sustainable achievement of desired results.Dr. Gavoni's reach extends internationally across education, behavior analysis, and human service organizations. Hosting the globally acclaimed Crisis in Education Podcast, Thoughts and Rants of a Behavior Scientist Podcast, and being a Wall Street Journal and USA Today best-selling co-author, his impact resonates widely. His publications provide fresh perspectives and actionable solutions to modern educational and performance challenges, all rooted in the principles of Applied Behavior Analysis.A sought-after international speaker, Dr. Gavoni's presentation style blends professionalism with approachability, concentrating on tangible problems and realistic solutions. His authenticity and firsthand experiences facilitate a strong connection with audiences, allowing him to express concerns about educational systems and the adverse effects of certain methodologies while concurrently offering positive, science-based alternatives.Beyond his work in education and human services, Dr. Gavoni is a former Golden Gloves Champion and highly respected striking coach in combat sports. Coach "Paulie Gloves," as he is known in the Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) community, has trained world champions and UFC vets using technologies rooted in the behavioral sciences. Coach Paulie has been featured in the books Beast: Blood, Struggle, and Dreams at the Heart of Mixed Martial Arts, A Fighter's Way, the feature article Ring to Cage: How four former boxers help mold MMA's finest, FX's The Toughman, and was recently featured in the Lifetime reality series Leave it to Geege. He is also an author who has written extensively for online magazines such as Bloody Elbow, Scifighting, Last Word on Sports, and Bloody Elbow, where his Fight Science series continues to bring behavioral science to MMA.Dr. Gavoni's philosophy underscores continual advancement, positive evolution, and functional efficacy, marking him as a symbol of integrity and excellence in his field. His work not only challenges conventional thinking in education but also spans human services and combat sports, solidifying his role as a distinctive and influential figure across diverse disciplines. The multifaceted nature of his career serves as a living testament to the transformative potential of behavioral science, positioning Dr. Gavoni as a lasting voice for constructive change and a guiding force in educational renewal.