Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn (Paperback)
Emma Quinlan
Sold by AussieBookSeller, Truganina, VIC, Australia
AbeBooks Seller since 22 June 2007
New - Soft cover
Condition: New
Ships from Australia to U.S.A.
Quantity: 1 available
Add to basketSold by AussieBookSeller, Truganina, VIC, Australia
AbeBooks Seller since 22 June 2007
Condition: New
Quantity: 1 available
Add to basketPaperback. Are you always waiting for the next bad thing to happen? Always on edge, watching for someone's tone to shift, bracing for an impact that feels moments away - even when nothing is actually wrong? Maybe you're hypervigilant, scanning every interaction for danger: "Did I do something wrong? Why do they sound blunt? Are they angry?" Maybe you avoid conflict at all costs, terrified of what might erupt if you speak up. Or maybe you reshape yourself to keep the peace - agreeable, compliant, over-giving - hoping that if you stay "good," you won't be hurt. What you've spent your life believing are personality traits can, in fact, be trauma responses. You didn't choose them; they formed to protect you. Perhaps your default is fight, always ready for battle - verbally, emotionally, or physically - because it was once the only way to stay safe. Maybe you lean toward flight, doing anything you can to escape discomfort or potential harm, even when part of you wants to stay. Or you may freeze, disconnecting from your own thoughts, feelings, or voice because speaking or acting once came with danger. Then there's fawn, the people-pleasing survival strategy that has you abandoning your own needs to soothe others. And finally, the lesser-known flop response: the complete shut-down of mind and body when the overwhelm becomes unbearable. Maybe you adopted a mix of these trauma responses. Understanding trauma responses and how your survival mode shapes your behaviour is essential to healing. So, if you've ever wondered why you overreact, shut down, run, explode, go numb, or over-accommodate, this book will help you see that your reactions aren't defective behaviour or toxic traits: they're survival responses born out of trauma. Drawing from lived experience and years of research into trauma and the nervous system, I wrote this book for people who don't understand why they react the way they do - or how to care for themselves when overwhelm takes over - because that was once my everyday reality, too. I'll talk about: Why your nervous system chooses fight, flight, freeze, fawn, or flop.How these responses form in childhood and follow you into adulthood.Behaviours you don't realize are trauma-driven.Why you shut down, dissociate, panic, or people-please.How survival mode shapes your relationships, self-worth, and identity.Simple, gentle ways to interrupt that old wiring and begin to feel safe in your own body.Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn explores each trauma response in depth: what it looks like, why it develops, how it plays out in adulthood, and how to work with your nervous system instead of fighting against it. Understanding your trauma responses is the first step toward freeing yourself from them. This item is printed on demand. Shipping may be from our Sydney, NSW warehouse or from our UK or US warehouse, depending on stock availability.
Seller Inventory # 9798232356279
Are you always waiting for the next bad thing to happen? Always on edge, watching for someone's tone to shift, bracing for an impact that feels moments away - even when nothing is actually wrong?
Maybe you're hypervigilant, scanning every interaction for danger: "Did I do something wrong? Why do they sound blunt? Are they angry?"
Maybe you avoid conflict at all costs, terrified of what might erupt if you speak up.
Or maybe you reshape yourself to keep the peace - agreeable, compliant, over-giving - hoping that if you stay "good," you won't be hurt.
What you've spent your life believing are personality traits can, in fact, be trauma responses. You didn't choose them; they formed to protect you.
Perhaps your default is fight, always ready for battle - verbally, emotionally, or physically - because it was once the only way to stay safe.
Maybe you lean toward flight, doing anything you can to escape discomfort or potential harm, even when part of you wants to stay.
Or you may freeze, disconnecting from your own thoughts, feelings, or voice because speaking or acting once came with danger.
Then there's fawn, the people-pleasing survival strategy that has you abandoning your own needs to soothe others.
And finally, the lesser-known flop response: the complete shut-down of mind and body when the overwhelm becomes unbearable.
Maybe you adopted a mix of these trauma responses.
Understanding trauma responses and how your survival mode shapes your behaviour is essential to healing. So, if you've ever wondered why you overreact, shut down, run, explode, go numb, or over-accommodate, this book will help you see that your reactions aren't defective behaviour or toxic traits: they're survival responses born out of trauma.
Drawing from lived experience and years of research into trauma and the nervous system, I wrote this book for people who don't understand why they react the way they do - or how to care for themselves when overwhelm takes over - because that was once my everyday reality, too.
I'll talk about:
Why your nervous system chooses fight, flight, freeze, fawn, or flop.
How these responses form in childhood and follow you into adulthood.
Behaviours you don't realize are trauma-driven.
Why you shut down, dissociate, panic, or people-please.
How survival mode shapes your relationships, self-worth, and identity.
Simple, gentle ways to interrupt that old wiring and begin to feel safe in your own body.
Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn explores each trauma response in depth: what it looks like, why it develops, how it plays out in adulthood, and how to work with your nervous system instead of fighting against it.
Understanding your trauma responses is the first step toward freeing yourself from them.
"About this title" may belong to another edition of this title.
We guarantee the condition of every book as it's described on the Abebooks web sites. If you're dissatisfied with your purchase (Incorrect Book/Not as Described/Damaged) or if the order hasn't arrived, you're eligible for a refund within 30 days of the estimated delivery date. If you've changed your mind about a book that you've ordered, please use the Ask bookseller a question link to contact us and we'll respond within 2 business days.
If you are a consumer you can cancel the contract in accordance with the following. Consumer means any natural person who is acting for purposes which are outside his trade, business, craft or profession.
INFORMATION REGARDING THE RIGHT OF CANCELLATION
Statutory Right to cancel
You have the right to cancel this contract within 14 days without giving any reason.
The cancellation period will expire after 14 days from the day on which you acquire, or a third party other than the carrier and indicated by you acquires, physical possession of the the last good or the last lot or piece.
To exercise the right to cancel, you must inform us, AussieBookSeller, 19 Whiting Street, 2064, Artarmon, NSW, Australia, 61 1800987323, of your decision to cancel this contract by a clear statement (e.g. a letter sent by post, fax or e-mail). You may use the attached model cancellation form, but it is not obligatory. You can also electronically fill in and submit a clear statement on our website, under "My Purchases" in "My Account". If you use this option, we will communicate to you an acknowledgement of receipt of such a cancellation on a durable medium (e.g. by e-mail) without delay.
To meet the cancellation deadline, it is sufficient for you to send your communication concerning your exercise of the right to cancel before the cancellation period has expired.
Effects of cancellation
If you cancel this contract, we will reimburse to you all payments received from you, including the costs of delivery (except for the supplementary costs arising if you chose a type of delivery other than the least expensive type of standard delivery offered by us).
We may make a deduction from the reimbursement for loss in value of any goods supplied, if the loss is the result of unnecessary handling by you.
We will make the reimbursement without undue delay, and not later than 14 days after the day on which we are informed about your decision to cancel with contract.
We will make the reimbursement using the same means of payment as you used for the initial transaction, unless you have expressly agreed otherwise; in any event, you will not incur any fees as a result of such reimbursement.
We may withhold reimbursement until we have received the goods back or you have supplied evidence of having sent back the goods, whichever is the earliest.
You shall send back the goods or hand them over to us or AussieBookSeller, 19 Whiting Street, 2064, Artarmon, NSW, Australia, 61 1800987323, without undue delay and in any event not later than 14 days from the day on which you communicate your cancellation from this contract to us. The deadline is met if you send back the goods before the period of 14 days has expired. You will have to bear the direct cost of returning the goods. You are only liable for any diminished value of the goods resulting from the handling other than what is necessary to establish the nature, characteristics and functioning of the goods.
Exceptions to the right of cancellation
The right of cancellation does not apply to:
Model withdrawal form
(complete and return this form only if you wish to withdraw from the contract)
To: (AussieBookSeller, 19 Whiting Street, 2064, Artarmon, NSW, Australia, 61 1800987323)
I/We (*) hereby give notice that I/We (*) withdraw from my/our (*) contract of sale of the following goods (*)/for the provision of the following goods (*)/for the provision of the following service (*),
Ordered on (*)/received on (*)
Name of consumer(s)
Address of consumer(s)
Signature of consumer(s) (only if this form is notified on paper)
Date
* Delete as appropriate.
Please note that titles are dispatched from our UK and NZ warehouse. Delivery times specified in shipping terms. Orders ship within 2 business days. Delivery to your door then takes 8-15 days.
| Order quantity | 25 to 45 business days | 8 to 14 business days |
|---|---|---|
| First item | £ 27.73 | £ 32.98 |
Delivery times are set by sellers and vary by carrier and location. Orders passing through Customs may face delays and buyers are responsible for any associated duties or fees. Sellers may contact you regarding additional charges to cover any increased costs to ship your items.