Ask Your Husband: A Wife’s Guide to True Femininity

There is, perhaps, no more controversial statement today than “the husband is the boss of his wife.” In Ask Your Husband, Mrs. Timothy J. Gordon explains how this proposition proves to be required by Scripture and by two millennia of Catholic teaching.

Ask Your Husband instructs Catholic wives how properly to serve their husbands in Christian marriage: by emulating our Lady and by embracing the household patriarchy, just as she did.

Ask Your Husband is a counter-cultural manifesto of the domicile. Against the fetid rot of feminism, Christian wives should employ this book in their labors to rehabilitate the wayward popular Christian view of their sexual roles, their souls, their marriages, and their mothering.

“In 2,000 years of Christianity, this book will be considered a tour de force as it relates to authentic Catholic Christian femininity.”

-Jesse Romero
Retired Los Angeles Deputy Sheriff, Catholic lay evangelist


“Ask Your Husband had the synapses in my brain connecting and my neurotransmitters lighting up. Finally, a woman writes what I have known and felt inside my soul for decades! This book clearly explains the role and structure of the male—husband, father, patriarch—and the female—wife, mother, matriarch, ‘helpmate’ (cf. Genesis 2:18). I congratulate Stephanie Gordon for her intellectual integrity and her respect for the evidence from divine natural law and divine revelation. This book contains wisdom and insight and moral clarity (and should be used by Catholic therapists in their counseling practices with both male and female patients). Had Gloria Steinem or Betty Friedan enjoyed access to the information in this book, there would never been a mainstream feminist revolution. Being a Catholic woman is neither bondage nor slavery, but rather ‘freedom in Christ’ (cf. Galatians 5:1).”

-Anita Romero
Retired Los Angeles County Nurse and wife, mother, grandmother, and manager to Jesse Romero



"As a strong woman, I applaud Stephanie's foray into an exploration of God's design for women in the midst of a hostile culture that hates everything about His Will and His ways for marriage. Every woman who reads this will find a better way to live and will know the great graces God has destined for those women who dare to live out the authentic design of God in their marriage."

-Stephanie Burke
Co-host, Divine Intimacy Radio


"Stephanie Gordon's Ask Your Husband is a brave, powerful book. In a world bullied by feminism, Mrs. Gordon has the courage and grace to say, 'ask your husband.' Imparting a precious secret—since the Church's words on the subject have effectively become a secret—Ask
Your Husband offers practical wisdom for living out a marriage of best friends in a divinely ordered patriarchy. This is a book filled with intelligence, wisdom, and that special brand of sanity which has today become a 'thoughtcrime.’”

-Julia Meloni
Author, The St. Gallen Mafia


“Mrs. Gordon’s witty and insightful Ask Your Husband exposes the modern lie of the ‘necessity’ of a dual-income household, while unveiling the beautiful Catholic vision of married life. As a Catholic priest and pastor, my care for souls and their sanctification through marriage has been renewed by this heartfelt work.”

⁃ Fr. Paul A. Clark
Archdiocese of New Orleans