Anchored

When betrayal shatters your world, it can feel like you're drowning in grief and confusion. One moment you thought you knew your life, your marriage, your reality―and the next, you're caught in a tsunami of emotions, fighting to figure out which way is up.
Anchored: A Mentored Guide to Stability After Betrayal is a faith-based manual for women beginning their journey toward healing from sexual betrayal. Created by Pure Life Alliance and written by eight experts―therapists, coaches, and women who have walked this painful path themselves―this book combines clinical insight with biblical truth to help you find the hope and stability you need to begin moving forward.
What You'll Discover Inside:
The book guides you through eight transformative chapters covering:
Assessing Your Situation: Basic first steps to ensure your safety and help you cope with your devastating situation
Understanding Trauma: Learn how betrayal affects you physically, emotionally, and spiritually―and why it's not your faultSharing Your Story: Who to trust, how much to share, and building your circles of support
Navigating Emotions: Practical tools for managing anxiety, anger, grief, and waves of conflicting feelings
Establishing Boundaries: Protecting yourself through healthy boundaries, including guidance for abusive situations
Understanding Addiction: Essential information about the nature of sexual addiction―not to excuse it, but to help you make informed decisions
Rediscovering Yourself: Reclaiming your identity, learning to trust again, and moving toward forgiveness when you're ready
The Path Ahead: What to expect in your healing journey and practical strategies for challenges to come

Each chapter includes reflection exercises, biblical insight, and mentor discussion prompts that invite authentic connection and growth. Readers can also gain access to the Anchored Companion Course―a collection of videos, printable tools, and extended resources to deepen the healing process. Designed for use in small groups or one-on-one mentoring, Anchored brings together theological truth and trauma-informed practice to help betrayed partners move from shock to stability with courage and hope.
If you've been devastated by sexual betrayal―whether a recent discovery or a long-term pattern―Anchored will meet you in your pain and guide you through those first steps toward rebuilding safety, stability, and self-worth. You didn't choose this journey, but you do get to choose how to move forward from here. Anchored will help you do that.

This is book one in a three-book series for betrayed spouses by Pure Life Alliance. The journey continues with Aligned: A Mentored Guide to Rebuilding Trust and Embarked: A Mentored Guide to Purpose and Restoration.

Pure Life Alliance (PLA) is a non-profit ministry based in the Pacific Northwest that works with local churches, therapists and authors to provide ongoing small groups for families dealing with issues of sexual addiction and brokenness. Since 2005, we have partnered with local churches to equip and train their members to lead purity groups on their campus or at the church just down the road. We use a collaborative philosophy of ministry that encourages team-based leadership and a wide spectrum of curriculum written by dozens of authors. Our Set Free groups for men, and Healing Haven groups for women provide solid solutions for those impacted by sexual addiction issues. Check out how we do what we do at purelifealliance.com
Deborah, once an addicted young woman, has journeyed through deep personal healing and now helps others do the same. With 13 years at Pure Desire and certifications in trauma recovery and transformational coaching, she offers a faith-based, methodical approach to uncovering hope and worth. She lives in Gresham, Oregon, with her husband Harry, their cat Loki, and her mother Patricia.
Eileen and her husband Bill are pastoral clinicians with Pure Desire Ministries, helping individuals and couples heal from sexual brokenness and betrayal trauma. A Licensed Professional Counselor in Oregon and Tennessee, Eileen is also a Certified Sexual Addictions Therapist and Clinical Trauma Professional. She lives in Tennessee and loves family time and leading worship.
Jenn is a dynamic speaker and Betrayal Recovery Coach known for her humor, empathy, and belief that "anything is possible." She helps women heal from infidelity and relational trauma, rebuild trust, and restore self-worth. As a Body Image Recovery Coach and co-host of The Betrayal Recovery Transformation Podcast, she inspires hope and confidence through her heartfelt approach.
Joanna is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Partner Trauma Therapist who helps individuals and couples heal from trauma, addiction, and betrayal. With dual master's degrees from Fuller Seminary and advanced training in EFT, EMDR, and Restoration Therapy, she brings an integrative, faith-based approach. She and her husband, Matthew, co-lead The Raabsmith Team in Tennessee.
Jeremy Waldridge serves as Executive Director of Pure Life Alliance, leading over 50 volunteers across multiple states to help individuals find freedom from unwanted sexual behaviors. With more than a decade in recovery ministry, he partners with churches through the annual Xposed Conference to equip faith communities in biblical sexuality. Jeremy lives in Oregon with his wife, Brianna, and their son.
Brianna Waldridge is a gifted editor with the ability to bring clarity, warmth, and unity to collaborative projects. Her keen eye for language and thoughtful editing ensures each chapter connects seamlessly, maintaining a consistent voice and shared purpose.
Stacey is the Chief Clinical Officer at Daring Ventures, an EMDR Certified Therapist, APSATS trainer, and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. She serves on the board of New Life Ministries and speaks at the Restore Workshop. Passionate about helping couples heal from betrayal, Stacey uses a Couple Centered Recovery model to rebuild trust. She lives in Galveston, Texas, with her husband.
Melissa is the founder and former director of Pure Life Alliance's Hidden Hurt program (now Healing Haven). Married to Blake Williams, founder and longtime Executive Director of Pure Life Alliance, for nearly 40 years, she now splits her time between Manitoba and Minnesota, supporting her mother and working part-time while Blake serves as a therapist.
Lyschel is the Founder and Lead Hope Caster of Hope Redefined™, walking with women since 2008 through the pain of betrayal and infidelity. She creates safe spaces for healing through online groups, retreats, coaching, and the Hope Online community. Co-host of the Hope for Wives podcast, Lyschel lives joyfully amid her "Burket Family Circus of Five."
My journey to founding Living Waters of Hope began after witnessing the devastating effects of domestic abuse on women very close to me. The urgent need for biblically-based healing resources was undeniable, and I felt God's clear call to write the Oasis Bible Study. Safe and confidential online Oasis support classes help women navigate the complex challenges of unhealthy relationships, rooted in God's truth.
As a follower of Jesus, a Certified Counselor, and a Domestic Abuse Advocate, my deepest passion is guiding women to embrace their true worth and value through God's Word and the liberating truth about domestic abuse. Founded in 2013, our mission at Living Waters of Hope is to restore hope and dignity to women and equip others to do the same.
Outside of ministry, I'm blessed to share life with my wonderful servant-leader husband of 45 years (Ephesians 5:25). We cherish time with our family as well as exploring the beautiful mountains, lakes, and coastlines near our Oregon home.