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Synopsis
You've known better in the middle of doing it, and done it anyway.
You've raised your voice over something that didn't deserve it, or gone silent instead, and either way you knew it wasn't really about what just happened.
You've needed to be right about something small enough that being wrong wouldn't have cost you anything.
You've watched yourself avoid a conversation you knew you needed to have, and told yourself you'd deal with it later.
You've noticed the same conflict finding you in different relationships, with different people, wearing different clothes.
Most people call this personality. A short fuse. Being conflict-avoidant. Just how I am.
Somewhere years ago, one of these responses worked. Raising your voice kept people from getting close enough to hurt you. Going silent kept you safe. Needing to be right kept you in control. Avoiding the hard conversation kept you from getting hurt again. Your brain filed it away as a strategy worth keeping, and it never got the memo that you grew up.
That strategy is still running. Right now, in your adult relationships, your job, your marriage, your friendships. It fires before you've had a single conscious thought about it. It was built to protect a kid who needed protecting.
Child in Charge is about what happens when those old strategies keep making decisions for the adult you've become.
Drawing on neuroscience, psychology, and twenty-five years working with families in crisis, Mark maps fifty-five of these strategies into a simple system of three categories, one that lets you classify almost any behavior you or someone you love falls into and understand exactly what it's doing there.
You'll start to see these patterns everywhere. In yourself, in your kids, in the people you work with and love. Once you see them, you can't unsee them.
You'll finally understand why insight alone hasn't been enough to change your behavior, and what it actually takes to install something new in its place.
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About the Author
Mark Linsenbardt has spent more than twenty years working with adults and teenagers who are stuck, in relationships that keep failing the same way, in patterns they recognize but can't seem to stop, in behaviors that made sense once and don't anymore. That work, across courtrooms, recovery programs, family workshops, and conference stages, is the foundation of Child in Charge.The book's argument is simple and uncomfortable: most of the strategies people use to manage their lives were built by children, in environments that no longer exist, and the brain has been running them ever since. Mark has been watching that dynamic play out in real people for two decades, in specialty courts, in family systems on the edge of collapse, in rooms full of judges and professionals who were surprised to recognize themselves in a framework built for understanding difficult behavior.For fourteen years, Mark has facilitated family workshops through ResetYourLife and conducted Recovery Camps for drug courts, juvenile courts, and court-mandated family programs. That work put him in direct contact with the full range of childhood strategies operating in adult bodies, under adult-level stakes. He has delivered workshops and keynote addresses on trauma and behavioral change to a wide range of audiences, including judges and judicial employees throughout Nevada, and has presented at conferences and training events nationwide.His Neurons and Narratives series, written for parents, teenagers, and families navigating adolescence, draws on the same science Child in Charge is built on. The connection is intentional. The behaviors that develop in childhood become the patterns adults carry. Both bodies of work exist because understanding where behavior comes from is the first step toward doing something different with it.Mark has been writing and publishing since 1997. A Las Vegas native, he is a popular speaker for conventions, conferences, and judicial training events throughout the region and nationwide.
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