Sober Secure: An Attachment-Based Guide to Dating, Sex, and Love in Recovery - Softcover

Pick, Nina

Softcover

ISBN 13: 9798889843740

Publisher: North Atlantic Books,U.S., 2026

Synopsis

An attachment-first path to lasting recovery: build the love, safety, and belonging that keep you sober—and help your relationships thrive

Practical, body-based tools for dating, intimacy, and partnership in sobriety

Recovery isn't just about staying sober—it's about learning to love and be loved securely. Sober Secure reframes recovery through attachment, giving people in sobriety practical tools to heal early relational wounds, regulate the nervous system, and create the connections that sustain a joyful, durable recovery.

Nina Pick, MA, integrative somatic counselor and author of The Mind-Body Guide to the Twelve Steps, draws on attachment science, polyvagal theory, and somatic therapy—while honoring the strengths of Twelve Step communities. She offers clear language, vivid examples, and step-by-step practices for real life: dating and consent, attuned touch and intimacy, conflict and repair, and long-term partnership—on both Twelve Step and non-Twelve Step paths.

You’ll learn to:

• Spot your attachment patterns in sobriety and move toward earned secure attachment.
  
• Regulate your nervous system with simple somatic tools that make connection feel safer.
  
• Trade isolating self-reliance for healthy interdependence without losing your agency.
  
• Date with pacing and clarity; navigate sex and consent with care; deepen partnership.
  
• Transform chronic shame and “not enough” beliefs that fuel isolation and relapse risk.
  

Warm, accessible, and immediately useful, Sober Secure is a loving companion for building the safety, belonging, and embodied presence that let your sobriety—and your life—fully bloom.

About this title

About the Author

Nina Pick is an integrative somatic counselor and certified NeuroAffective Touch practitioner focused on helping individuals with early relational wounds live full, embodied, and connected lives. In recovery since 2009, her books include The Mind-Body Guide to the Twelve Steps: Finding Joy, Sensuality, and Pleasure in Recovery and Tall Oak and Small Owl, a book for young children about secure attachment. 

She received an MA in counseling psychology with a focus on marriage and family therapy from Pacifica Graduate Institute and an MA in comparative literature from UC Berkeley, and has certifications in a range of modalities, including Somatic Attachment Therapy, Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy, the Safe and Sound Protocol, the Havening Techniques, and Reiki. In private practice in Western Massachusetts, she also facilitates groups on somatics and recovery at Commonwealth Collaborative and is a fellow with the Yiddish Book Center’s Wexler Oral History Project.

Edition details

• Publisher: North Atlantic Books,U.S.
• Publication date: 2026
• Language: English
• ISBN 13: 9798889843740
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 288