On Your Own Side: A Compassionate Guide to Stop Self-Sabotaging, Get Out of Your Own Way, and Build the Life You Actually Want: 18 (The Overthinker’s Series) - Softcover

Ellison, Maya

Softcover

ISBN 13: 9798189522789

Publisher: Independently published, 2026

Synopsis

You know what you want. You know what you’d need to do. And somehow, again and again, you get in your own way. If you keep asking “why do I keep doing this?” — this book is for you.

You put off the thing that matters and scramble at the last minute. You finally get the relationship, the opportunity, the good thing you wanted — and find a way to spoil it. You set the goal, mean it completely, and then quietly don’t follow through. It’s called self-sabotage, and here’s the truth that changes everything: you are not lazy, weak, or your own worst enemy. The part of you that sabotages is a frightened protector, trying in its clumsy way to keep you safe — and nearly two out of three people do some version of it.

On Your Own Side is a warm, practical, shame-free guide for the capable, caring person who keeps undermining the things they most want. No willpower lectures, no hustle, no fake formulas — just the realisations that finally make change possible: self-sabotage isn’t a knowing problem or a wanting problem; it lives in the gap between them, and it’s driven by fear and by what you secretly believe you deserve.

Inside, you’ll learn how to:

• Spot your own patterns of getting in your own way — and the fears beneath them
• Understand why you sabotage success, love, and happiness just as they arrive
• Work with the ‘deserve level’ that quietly caps your life
• Stop fighting yourself — and reassure the frightened part instead
• Bridge the maddening gap between knowing and doing
• Heal the self-sabotage that undermines your relationships
• Let yourself actually have — and keep — good things
• Become your own ally and build the life you actually want

Grounded in cognitive behavioural principles and self-compassion, it also includes a pocket toolkit, a spot-your-sabotage profile, real-life scenarios, and a sabotage reset for the hardest moments.

You were never your own enemy — only a frightened part trying to keep you safe. It’s time to get out of your own way, and onto your own side.

Stop being your own obstacle. Scroll up and grab your copy — the life you want is waiting, and you’re allowed to have it.

Edition details

• Publisher: Independently published
• Publication date: 2026
• Language: English
• ISBN 13: 9798189522789
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 86