How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love - Softcover

Ury, Logan

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1982120630 ISBN 13: 9781982120634

Publisher: Simon & Schuster, 2022

Synopsis

A “must-read” (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams—from the Harvard-trained behavioral scientist and featured dating coach on Netflix’s The Later Daters.

Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives—they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love.

Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how.

This “simple-to-use guide” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories.

You’ll learn:
-What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern)
-What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t)
-How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you)
-How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love)
-How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews)
-Why “the spark” is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway)

This “data-driven” (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

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About the Author

Behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury is an internationally recognized expert on modern love. As the Director of Relationship Science at the dating app Hinge, Logan leads a research team dedicated to helping people find love. After studying psychology at Harvard, she ran Google's behavioral science team--the Irrational Lab--and created the popular interview series "Talks at Google: Modern Romance." She is a 2018 TED Resident. Logan lives in the Bay Area with her husband, Scott. She credits her relationship success to the techniques outlined in How to Not Die Alone. Learn more at LoganUry.com or follow her @LoganUry.

Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

Chapter 1: Why Dating Is Harder Now Than Ever Before

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Dating is harder now than ever before. And you can tell your mom I said that.
2. Here’s why:
   • We define our own identities, unlike our ancestors, whose lives were defined by their communities.
   • We have thousands of options at our fingertips, which causes us to question our decisions.
   • We’re uncomfortable making big decisions when we can’t research our way to the right answer.
   • Social media leads us to believe that everyone else is in healthier, happier relationships than we are.
   • Far too few of us have good relationship role models.
   • There are far more models for dating and long-term relationships.
   • We’re bombarded with messaging that we need to get this decision “right”—and that a right answer exists at all.
3. But there’s hope. Using insights from behavioral science, we can take control of our love lives.

Edition details

• Publisher: Simon & Schuster
• Publication date: 2022
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1982120630
• ISBN 13: 9781982120634
• Binding: Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 352