Everything is Workable: A ZEN Approach to Conflict Resolution - Softcover

Diane Musho Hamilton

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1611800676 ISBN 13: 9781611800678

Publisher: Shambhala Publications Inc, 2014

Synopsis

Using mindfulness to work with and resolve the inevitable interpersonal conflicts that arise in all areas of life.

     Everything Is Workable gives readers the tools they need for dynamic, vital, and effective relationships, both personal and professional. Diane Musho Hamilton draws on her years of experience as a professional mediator, Zen practitioner, and student of Ken Wilber's Integral Philosophy to present a spiritual approach to conflict resolution, providing teachings along with practices and exercises that can be applied to any sort of relationship in which conflict is a factor.

Few people would say they like conflict. Most of us try like heck to avoid it. If we take up meditation practice, we often expect that to make conflict go away. But . . . surprise! It never does. We still disagree with each other, argue, get hurt, say things we didn't mean to say. It's at the very least inconvenient. It's often also destructive. We're stuck with conflict as long as we're human beings with jobs, relationships, or dry cleaning to be picked up.

Meditation practice enables us to touch the inner source of clarity, understanding, compassion, and peace--yet the equanimity that we cultivate on the cushion does not always translate into skillfulness in the way we handle conflict in our personal lives. Interpersonal conflict ends up being the most difficult and painful part of our path. Though meditation is incomparably helpful, it doesn't make the sticky interpersonal issues go away. Conflict resolution skills are needed. Diane Musho Hamilton suggests that we make conflict resolution a valued part of our practice.

About this title

About the Author

DIANE MUSHO HAMILTON is a Zen teacher and priest and was the first Director of the Office of Alternative Dispute Resolution of the Utah Judiciary. The recipient of numerous awards for her work in mediation, she is also cofounder of Two Arrows Zen, a practice organization with centers in Salt Lake City and in the red rock country of Southern Utah.

From the Back Cover

Using mindfulness to work with and resolve the inevitable interpersonal conflicts that arise in all areas of life.



"Wonderfully engaging, perceptive, and wise."-William L. Ury, co-author of Getting to Yes



Conflict is going to be part of your life-as long as you have relationships, hold down a job, or have dry cleaning to be picked up. Bracing yourself against it won't make it go away, but if you approach it consciously, you can navigate it in a way that not only honors everyone involved but makes it a source of deep insight as well. Seasoned mediator Diane Hamilton provides the skill set you need to engage conflict with wisdom and compassion, and even-sometimes-to be grateful for it. She teaches how to:



• Cultivate the mirror-like quality of attention as your base

• Identify the three personal conflict styles and determine which one you fall into

• Recognize the three fundamental perspectives in any conflict situation and learn to inhabit each of them

• Turn conflicts in families, at work, and in every kind of interpersonal relationship into win-win situations

Edition details

• Publisher: Shambhala Publications Inc
• Publication date: 2014
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 1611800676
• ISBN 13: 9781611800678
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 256