Reconcilable Differences: Rebuild Your Relationship by Rediscovering the Partner You Love--without Losing Yourself - Softcover

Christensen, Andrew; Jacobson, Neil S.

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1572305096 ISBN 13: 9781572305090

Publisher: Guilford Press, 2002

Synopsis

Winner of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT) Self-Help Seal of Merit!

Every couple has arguments, but what happens when recurring battles begin to feel like full-scale war? Do you retreat in hurt and angry silence, hoping that a spouse who "just doesn't get it" will eventually see things your way? Spend the time between skirmishes gathering evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? Whether due to innate personality traits or emotional vulnerabilities, there are some aspects of our behaviour that are difficult to alter. But these differences do not have to get in the way of healthy, happy, and long-lasting romance. This practical guide offers new solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. Aided by thought-provoking exercises and lots of real-life examples, readers will learn why they keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; and how true acceptance can restore health to their relationships.

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Review

'One virtue of the book is its utter realism...[lt] offers a slew of tools that couples can use to reconcile their differences without the help of a therapist.' - Jane Brody, The New York Times 'This book speaks directly to the heart... Readers will learn how to heal their relationships and create the intimacy they want.' - John Gottman, PhD, author of Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work 'Packed with data, wisdom, and common sense.' - Polly Drew, Milwaukee Journal Sentinel 'The most intelligent text available on the topic of romantic relationships, this book will stimulate thought and discussion among graduate students and advanced undergraduates. It is required reading in my own course on social relationships.' - Joseph Kasof, PhD, University of California, Irvine 'This well-researched and well-written book is exactly what quarreling couples need to extricate themselves from tangles of blame and accusation. It is not just a pep talk, but a practical, hands-on guide for

Synopsis

Every couple has arguments, but what happens when recurring battles begin to feel like full-scale war? Do you retreat in hurt and angry silence, hoping that a spouse who "just doesn't get it" will eventually see things your way? Spend the time between skirmishes gathering evidence that you're right? Demand some immediate changes--or else? Whether due to innate personality traits or emotional vulnerabilities, there are some aspects of our behaviour that are difficult to alter. But these differences do not have to get in the way of healthy, happy, and long-lasting romance. This practical guide offers new solutions for couples frustrated by continual attempts to make each other change. Aided by thought-provoking exercises and lots of real-life examples, readers will learn why they keep having the same fights again and again; how to keep small incompatibilities from causing big problems; and how true acceptance can restore health to their relationships.

Edition details

• Publisher: Guilford Press
• Publication date: 2002
• ISBN 10: 1572305096
• ISBN 13: 9781572305090
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 332