I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better makes two propositions: First, you don't have to solve other people's problems. And second, by appropriately validating feelings, you empower people to be their own problem solvers, which will significantly increase the quality of your relationships.The techniques of validation the Lundbergs share give people the space to solve their own problems while still feeling that someone cares. In the first half of the book the Lundbergs discuss the principles behind validation, while the second half shows how these techniques can work to improve communication and relationships with children, teens, spouses, blended families, and even on the job.The authors' anecdotal style and examples demonstrate validation in everyday situations and language that readers can easily master. And the results can be miraculous."Powerful ... practical suggestions on the how-to's of building meaningful relationships". Stephen R. Covey, author of The 7 Habits of HighlyEffective People"This book has the power to improve all relationships. I highly recommend it". Dr. Ronald Jorgensen, the Mayo Clinic
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All of your relationships will be improved. Enjoy the peace.
Hi, readers. Thanks for spending a minute with us.
Three years ago we self published our book, I Don't Have to Make Everything All Better. We were teaching the six principles in our seminars and those attending wanted them in print. "Write the book," was the request we heard over and over again. We printed 5,000 copies; they sold and we kept reprinting. After selling 60,000 copies (and much to our delight) the New York publishing company, Viking Penguin, bought the world-wide English publishing rights and their new hardback edition is now available. By then we had received many letters and calls from readers telling us how the book had helped them. We knew the principles worked in our own lives and the lives of clients, and were so pleased to find they were genuinely helping others in their relationships, too. Here's a sampling of stories we have received:
· "I had given up hope on ever being able to communicate with my wife and my children. Our conversations always ended in an argument. Then I read your book. It has been a miracle in my life. I now have a great relationship with my wife and my children. These principles work!" · "Your book gave us back our sixteen-year-old son. He had rebelled and nothing we tried worked. It only seemed to drive him further away. Then we bought your book and everything changed. We can't thank you enough."
· "I refer all my clients to your book. It has saved marriages in my family counseling practice. Even a teenage client read and applied the principles and said, ‘My mom is super reasonable now.' It's also helping step parents blend their families. I appreciate the simple clear way you present these principles. Thank you."
· "My grown children's problems were killing me. I kept trying to make everything all better for them, and I couldn't. My health was failing as a result of the worry and stress. Then I bought your book. I'm using your principles and my health has returned. And my kids like me better. They're solving their own problems now."
· "I'm a salesman and your book has been a great asset in working with my clients. These concepts are amazing."
We hope this helps you understand a little more about what our book might do for you. After you have read it we would love to hear from you. Our best reward is knowing it has helped others enjoy peace and happiness in their lives.
Gary Lundberg is a licensed marriage and family therapist in private practice. Together with his wife, writer, speaker, lyricist and poet Joy Saunders Lundberg, they co-host a weekly radio show on relationships (Morning with the Lundbergs) and present seminars and workshops around the country. They are the parents of five children.
Joy Saunders Lundberg is a writer and speaker. Together with her husband Gary Lundberg she presents seminars and workshops throughout the country and cohosts a weekly radio show on relationships. The parents of five children, they live in Provo, Utah. Meet them on their Web site at www.allbetter.net.
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