I'm Not a Mind Reader: Using the Power of Three-Dimensional Communication for a Better Relationship - Softcover

Babits LCSW BCD, Marty

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0757318339 ISBN 13: 9780757318337

Publisher: Health Communications, 2015

Synopsis

Chocolates are fine and flowers rarely disappoint, but for relationships on the rocks, nothing says, 'I love you' like the promise of renewal. In I'm Not a Mind Reader, Babits reveals that too often, even the smartest people have difficulty communicating, and we've learned over the years that love isn't enough to repair the normal wear and tear that occurs in relationships.

So, what can couples do when even love itself fails? Babits lays out a totally unique blueprint for renewal in The I'm Not a Mind Reader, explaining that every message from one partner to another can be considered in terms of three separate dimensions:

1. The surface level—this is the literal meaning of what partners say to one another
2. The emotional subtext of the message—its emotional undertone
3. The third dimension—evaluating the first two and comparing them with the goal of creating emotional safety within the dialogue

Armed with this formula, whatever needs to be better understood, resolved, expanded or modified in the relationship can be addressed and communication brings coherence and connection. The person who practices three-dimensional communication lives in full and vibrant color compared with seeing everything in black and white. This new method is vivid and textured; it promotes the capacity to negotiate differences, to clarify misunderstandings, to heal confusions, and to reinvigorate passion and trust.

About this title

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I'm Not a Mind Reader

Review

"First comes love . . . then comes Babits . . . then comes marriage and the baby carriage! This book should be required reading for all beginning couples."

--Suzanne Iasenza, PhD, renowned Manhattan psychologist/sex therapist, faculty at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis and the Postgraduate Program in Couples and Family Therapy of Adelphi University's Derner Institute

"Marty Babits' skill at rendering dialogue is novelistic, and only as the reader begins to absorb the sincerity with which the couples and their therapist struggle with constraints, conscious or not, does the real strength of our human need for attachment appear. From written exercises, to sexuality, to the section on neuroscience, chapter after chapter of candid writing--unique in any book on empowerment--are bold, frank, empathic, and useful."

--Elizabeth Danto, PhD, professor of social work, emeritus, Hunter College-City University of New York, author of Freud's Free Clinics

'Marty Babits has written another excellent book to help both couples and their therapists. I appreciate his addressing of neuroscience to illustrate a goal of treatment: using more logical reasoning (via the cerebral cortex) to better control the emotions (via the amygdala) that interfere with optimal communication.'

--Jeffrey B. Freedman, MD, director, Division of Psychosomatic Medicine, Mount Sinai Roosevelt and St. Luke's Hospitals

Edition details

• Publisher: Health Communications
• Publication date: 2015
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0757318339
• ISBN 13: 9780757318337
• Binding: Paperback
• Edition number: 1
• Number of pages: 312