The Romance of Risk: Why Teenagers Do the Things They Do - Hardcover

Ponton, Lynn E.

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0465070752 ISBN 13: 9780465070756

Publisher: Basic Books, 1997

Synopsis

Distinguishes between healthy and destructive risk-taking behavior in teens and offers possible reasons for the latter

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From the Author

TEN TIPS FOR PARENTS : Understanding your teen's behavior
1- All teenagers take risks as a normal part of growing up. Risk-taking is the tool an adolescent uses to define and develop his or her identity, and healthy risk-taking is a valuable experience.

2- Healthy adolescent risk taking behaviors which tend to have a positive impact on an adolescent's developement can include participation in sports, the development of artistic and creative abilities, volunteer activities, travel, running for school office, making new friends, constructive contributions to the family or community, and others. Inherent in all these activities is the possibility of failure. Parents must recognize and support their child with this.

3- Negative risk-taking behaviors which can be dangerous for adolescents include drinking, smoking, drug use, reckless driving, unsafe sexual activity, disordered eating, self mutilation, running away, stealing, gang activity, and others.

4- Unhealthy adolescent risk-taking may appear to be "rebelion"--an angry gesture directed specifically at parents. However, risk-taking, wether healthy or unhealthy is simply part of the teen's struggle to test out an identity by providing self-definition and separation from others, including parents.

5- Some adolescent behaviors are deceptive -- a teen may genuinely try to take a healthy risk that evolves into a more dangerous behavior. For exemple, many adolescents girls fail to recognize the trap of dieting and fall into a pattern of disordered eating, sometimes even developing a full eating disorder. Parents need to be well informed in order to help their adolescent with such struggles.

6- "Red Flags" which help identify dangerous adolescent risk-taking can include psychological problems such as persistent depression or anxiety which goes beyond more typical adolescent "moodiness" ; problems at school; engaging in illegal activities; and clusters of unhealthy risk-taking behaviors (e.g., smoking, drinking and driving recklessly might be happening at the same time, as might disordered eating, self-mutilation, or running away and stealing).

7- Since adolescents need to take risks, parents need to help them find healthy opportunities to do so. Healthy risk-taking, not only important in itself, can help prevent unhealthy risk-taking.

8- Adolescents often offer subtle clues about their negative risk-taking through what they say about the behaviors of friends and family, including parents. Parents often stay silent about their own histories of risk-taking and experimenting, but it can be important to find ways to share this information with adolecents in order to serve as role models, to let teens know that mistakes are not fatal and to encourage making healthier choices than those the parents may have made during his or her own adolescence.

9- Adolescents look to their parents for advice and modeling about how to assess positive and negative risks. Parents need to help their teens learn how to evaluate risks and anticipate the consequences of their choices, and develop strategies for diverting their energy into healthier activities when necessary.

10- Parents need to pay attention to their own current patterns of risk-taking as well. Teenagers are watching, and imitating, wether they acknowledge it or not.

About the Author

Lynn Ponton is a practicing clinical psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, and a professor of psychiatry at the University of California at San Francisco. She has written hundreds of articles in publications such as USA Today, the Los Angeles Times, the San Francisco Chronicle, the New York Times,Clinical Psychiatry News, Science, and Woman's Day.

Edition details

• Publisher: Basic Books
• Publication date: 1997
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0465070752
• ISBN 13: 9780465070756
• Binding: Hardcover
• Number of pages: 320