How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You: The Fail-Proof, Fool-Proof Method - Softcover

Cabot, Tracy

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0440145368 ISBN 13: 9780440145363

Publisher: Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group, 1987

Synopsis

"A great piece of psychological wisdom."--Playgirl

YES, YOU CAN DO IT!

You've heard about it on Donahue and Today. You've read about it in Time and New Woman. Now you can discover how to:
- Find the love of your life
- Make the chemistry of love happen--at will
- Meet your love's unconscious needs
- Establish instant trust and rapport
- Anchor your happiness with a magic touch
- Get him to say yes--so subtly, he won't even know you've done it
- Keep love alive for a lifetime

Now the magic is here, ready to use--if you dare. Revolutionary new scientifically tested and proven techniques show you how some women seem to find true love effortlessly. Now you can too!

"It's about time women began applying as much savvy to their personal lives as they do in their careers. Tracy Cabot's book outlines intelligent and workable strategies."--Ruth Halcomb, author of Women Making It

About this title

About the Author

Tracy Cabot has a PhD in psychology. She has written five books on relationships: How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You; How to Keep a Man in Love with You Forever; Man Power: How to Win the Woman You Want; Marrying Later, Marrying Smarter; and Letting Go: How to Get Over a Broken Heart. She and her husband, Marshall Whitfield, own and operate the Relationship Research Center.

From the Back Cover

Forget about learning how to make love to a man. "First you have to learn how to make a man fall in love with you.

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How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You

The Fail-Proof, Fool-Proof Method

By Tracy Cabot

Random House Publishing Group

Copyright © 1987 Tracy Cabot
All rights reserved.

ISBN: 978-0-440-14536-3

Introduction
 
Hardly anyone can resist an offer of more love. Getting love is the inspiration for the greatest works of art, for the most brilliant performances, for the world’s memorable poems and great literature. Behind our striving for success and recognition, for good looks, knowledge, intimacy and communication is a simple desire to be loved.
 
In a world of searching and insecurity, of singles’ bars and midlife crises, dating services and therapy groups, there is a desperate shortage of mature, mutual love. Millions of women, ready for a loving, committed relationship, are unable to find it. These women can now be helped.
 
How to Make a Man Fall in Love with You is for every woman who isn’t getting all the love she wants right now.
 
Preface
 
People who are in love communicate on a level that surpasses the mundane and reaches deep into the other person’s psyche. Lovers seem to read each other’s minds, to know ahead of time what the other one is thinking.
 
They have made contact with each other’s inner being. That’s what the “chemistry” is, and that’s what you are about to learn to create—at your will, with the man of your choice.
 
If you faithfully follow The Love Plan, you will never again have that desperate, helpless feeling of passively waiting for the “chemistry” of true love to randomly enter your life.
 
In order to make a man fall in love with you, you must first understand how he perceives his world. Then you can find the key to his heart. The Love Plan will show you the way.
 
How many times have you thought, “Oh, if only he knew how I felt! If only I could get through to him. Why can’t he appreciate me? Can’t he see how much I love him, how much I have to offer?” Now, by learning and using the insights and techniques embodied in The Love Plan, you can win the man of your dreams forever.
 
As you know, three of the basic human senses are: sight, sound, and feelings. New findings in psychology tell us that, for each person, one of these senses tends to dominate. A man tends to be either sight, sound, or feelings oriented. This is how he perceives his universe. It is the basis of his personality, his inner “Love Language,” and, if understood properly, the key to his heart.
 
The Love Plan will show you how to find out your man’s secret Love Language. You will discover whether he’s a “seeing,” “hearing,” or “feeling” type. You will learn to talk to him in the special words he’ll immediately relate to. You will act in ways that rivet his attention on you. You will make him feel as if you are his soul mate. You alone will truly understand him. Even the most elusive lover will be irresistibly under your spell.
 
You will sense his inner pleasures and pains. Like the great lovers of history, you’ll know the perfect words to say. You’ll have the faultless timing, the undeniable allure of really understanding him and his universe. Then you can make his heart belong to you forever.
 
A very few people—often the most successful people—use these techniques unconsciously, automatically. Great trial lawyers use them to appeal to judges and juries. Million-dollar salesmen use them to appeal to clients. Famous therapists use them to help people. Now, for the first time, you can learn how to use these scientific psychological discoveries to bring True Love into your life.
 
When I first suggested this powerful Love Plan to make a man fall in love with you, a few women (and men too) felt it wouldn’t be fair. They felt that “making” someone fall in love with you would be manipulative, unromantic and cold. They felt it would be bypassing the “chemistry” and “magic” that love is supposed to be.
 
Yet these same women spend fortunes to color their hair and dress provocatively. They never go out without full makeup and a blow dry to make “less” look like “more.” You probably know many women who diet to starvation—even have plastic surgery to turn up their noses and unlid their eyes—all in hopes of finding lasting love.
 
These are the women who truly believe that physical subterfuge is an acceptable part of the “all’s fair in love” philosophy, while condemning strategies for better communication as dishonest. Of course, these are the same women who complain that men are unfeeling and don’t understand them.
 
Our culture (and our economy) programs us to believe that beauty and youth are the prime trading commodities for love. But beauty and youth have never guaranteed love. In fact, true love is just as often found by those who are not young and beautiful. Everyone needs love. That’s why The Love Plan is based on something everyone possesses—an inner ability to communicate.
 
Even though romantic love is supposed to be non-manipulative, free of game playing, nondevisive, and free flowing, we find many methods of pressuring and convincing those we love to love us back. From Helen Gurley Brown’s “Teddy Bear Tricks” in Sex and the Single Girl, to Marabel Morgan’s Joy of Womanhood, Xavier Hollander’s Happy Hooker, Alex Comfort’s Joy of Sex and More Joy, and in classics like Sex Without Guilt—even in Dr. Reuben’s Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Sex—we have learned some superficial ways to get more love.
 
Perhaps, says one, it’s okay to lie, sneak, and cheat just a little. Another says to dress up. Some others recommend exotic sex acts, and the classics tell us we shouldn’t feel guilty in bed. These days, any woman who’s so inclined can learn to perform sexually just by reading the popular magazines. Even Reader’s Digest tells us how to be good in bed.
 
Unfortunately, being good in bed is no guarantee of love, either. Even the most accomplished lover, surrounded by men, can find herself alone and yearning for a long-term, committed relationship. It’s time to discover the real ways to make someone fall in love with you, not the superficial ones.
 
Until now, the deeper psychological techniques of unconscious motivation described in The Love Plan have been the private and protected secrets of a select group of researchers, divulged only to an exclusive few who could afford to attend expensive weeklong seminars costing thousands of dollars.
 
These strategic communication abilities are far more powerful than the teddy bear tricks you tried in the past, more enticing than any seduction, more lasting and effective than the greatest sexual performance. It seems only fair that they be available to everyone. What better use could they find than to bring more love into people’s lives?
 
Combining these new communication strategies with well-known psychological techniques like “mirroring” and “anchoring,” any woman can make a man fall in love with her.
 
The Love Plan shows how. But first, The Love Plan shows you how to pick the right man and avoid all the wrong ones.
 

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Edition details

• Publisher: Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group
• Publication date: 1987
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0440145368
• ISBN 13: 9780440145363
• Binding: Mass Market Paperback
• Number of pages: 256