Your Competent Child: Toward New Basic Values for the Family - Softcover

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0374527903 ISBN 13: 9780374527907

Synopsis

In this important book, Jesper Juul argues that today's families are at an exciting crossroads. The destructive values -- obedience, physical and emotional violence, and conformity -- that governed traditional hierarchical families are being transformed.

Instead we can choose to embrace a new set of values based on the assumption that families must be built not on authoritarian force or democratic tyranny but on dignity and reciprocity between parent and child. Children are competent to express their feelings from birth, and they are eager to cooperate. It is parents who must work to listen to and learn from their children. When our children's behavior makes us feel less than valuable, then it is almost always because we are. That is, prior to a conflict, we were unable to convert our loving feelings into loving behavior, our good intentions into fruitful interaction.

Juul is a renowned international authority on the family. Using examples from families in many different countries, he has written a book that challenges parents to see their years with their children as an exciting time of growth and development for the whole family.

About this title

About the Author

Jesper Juul, born in Denmark in 1948, is a family therapist. He is the director of the Kempler Institute of Scandinavia, a center for family therapy, and Family Counseling International in Croatia. He divides his time between Copenhagen and Zagreb.

Edition details

• Publication date: 1611
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0374527903
• ISBN 13: 9780374527907
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 260