Attached: Identify your attachment style and find your perfect match

Levine, Amir; Heller, Rachel

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0330544071 ISBN 13: 9780330544078

Publisher: Rodale, 2011

We now know that the desire to become attached to a partner is a natural human drive - not a weak attribute of clingy females, as some would argue! And according to the new science of attachment, every person behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

- ANXIOUS people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.

- AVOIDANT people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimise closeness.

- SECURE people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognise the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship. Packed with fascinating psychology and case studies from successful - and unsuccessful - couples you can discover how to avoid the Anxious-Avoidant trap, why Secures can partner any type and how to love the Secure way. Attached is your road map to the perfect match and lasting love

Review:

'A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship' --John Gray, PhD, bestselling author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus

'Chock-full of tips, questionnaires and case studies, this is a solidly researched and intriguing approach to the perennial trials of "looking for love in all the right places" and improving existing relationships'
--Publishers Weekly

'Amir Levine and Rachel Heller have written a very smart book: It is clear, easy to read and insightful. It's a valuable tool whether you are just entering a relationship with a new partner or -as in my case - even after you've been married 21 years, and had thought you knew everything about your spouse.' --Mariette DiChristina, editor in chief, Scientific American

'Attached is a fascinating and enormously useful guide to one of life's most important ventures -finding and sustaining a secure, satisfying love relationship. Based on twenty-five years of research, laced with vivid and instructive examples, and enriched with interesting and well-designed exercises, the book provides deep insights and invaluable skills that will benefit every reader.' --Phillip R. Shaver, PhD, Distinguished Professor of Psychology, University of California, Davis and Past President, International Association for Relationship Research

'Cinderella's prince passionately turned his kingdom upside down simply to find her perfectly shaped foot, and they lived happily ever after. This book is for the rest of us. Whether already in a relationship or prospecting, Attached is intended to coach the "you" part of "just the two of you". The authors have distilled years of attachment theory research on the nature of human relationships into a practical, highly readable guide, allowing its users to prevent or untangle doomed relationships or predict and enhance those that will wear well and fit for a lifetime.' --John B. Herman, M.D., Associate Chief of Psychiatry and Distinguished Scholar of Medical Psychiatry, Massachusetts General Hospital and Associate Professor of Psychiatry, Harvard Medical School

'This book is both fascinating and fun. Attached will help every reader understand whom they are attracted to as partners, why, and what they can do to reach fulfillment in love. I enjoyed every moment.' --Janet Klosko, PhD., co-author of the US bestseller Reinventing Your Life

'A practical, enjoyable guide to forming rewarding romantic relationships.' --Kirkus Reviews

Book Description:

A practical relationship book that promises to help you find and keep love by understanding the science of adult attachment