Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life - Hardcover

Cloud Ph.D., Dr. Henry; Townsend, John

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0310585902 ISBN 13: 9780310585909

Publisher: Zondervan, 1992

Synopsis

Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: . Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances. Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others. Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator. Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask: Can I set limits and still be a loving person? What are legitimate boundaries? What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries? How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy or money? Aren't boundaries selfish? Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

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Review

Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend continue to break the boundaries of incredible revelation in their new and revised edition of Boundaries. As the senior pastor of a large church, this message has not only changed my life, but the lives of my staff and congregation. If you want to learn how to have healthier relationships, you need to read this book! * Robert Morris, Founding Senior Pastor, Gateway Church, Dallas/ Fort Worth, Texas; bestselling author of THE BLESSED LIFE , THE GOD I NEVER KNEW, TRULY FREE , and FREQUENCY * Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend is truly an "in case of (relational) fire---remove hammer, break glass" kind of book. If you need the pain to stop and the healing to start, read this life-changing book and follow its instruction to freedom. * Dr. James MacDonald, senior pastor of Harvest Bible Chapel and author of VERTICAL CHURCH and ACT LIKE MEN. JamesMacDonald.org * Cloud and Townsend's bestseller is even more relevant today than it was twenty years ago. Fresh stories, current examples, and an entire new chapter on "Boundaries and the Digital Age" mean this book continues to be one of the best resources available when it comes to maintaining healthy relationships. * Bill Hybels * Of every book that I've read, Boundaries is the one I recommend most often. All of us can overcommit, become doormats, or find ourselves in codependent and dysfunctional relationships. Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend's one-of-a-kind book helps guide the reader through a change in mindset that eventually leads to a change in actions. If you know you have some unhealthy patterns in friendships, at work, in your schedule, with technology or your family, this book will help you establish the boundaries you need to create the life you are supposed to live. * Craig Groeschel, pastor of Life.Church and NEW YORK TIMES bestselling author * Now updated and expanded, this classic book is more timely and relevant than ever for today's "always on, always there" culture. If technology and social media are intruding on your life and relationships, learn from the boundaries experts how to protect yourself and the people you love. This life-changing book is still the go-to guide for healthy relationships, personal growth, and true freedom in Christ. * Andy Stanley, pastor, author, communicator, and Founder of North Point Ministries * I've been recommending Boundaries to friends, team members and radio listeners for more than twenty years. In fact, hardly a day goes by when I don't use something that I learned from this book. The principles are timeless, and the updates in this version make Boundaries even more relevant to readers and their relationships. * Dave Ramsey, bestselling author and nationally syndicated radio show host *

From the Publisher

Synopsis:
While co-dependency was the buzzword of the 1980s, boundaries may be the word for the 1990s. According to authors and clinical psychologists, Henry Cloud and John Townsend, a boundary is defined as one’s personal property line and delineates those things for which he or she is responsible. The premise of their book, Boundaries, and its accompanying workbook, is that a great number of psychological, spiritual, and relational disorders have boundary conflicts at their core. This Gold Medallion award-winning book seeks to present a biblical treatment of boundaries, identifies how boundaries are developed and how they become disrupted, illustrates misconceptions of their function and purpose, targets boundary conflicts, and gives a program for developing and maintaining healthy limits. Boundaries affect all areas of our lives: · Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us, how, and when. · Mental boundaries give us freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions. · Emotional boundaries help us deal with our own emotions and disengage us from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others. · Spiritual boundaries help us distinguish God’s will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator. The Boundaries Workbook, available separately, provides practical, non-theoretical exercises that will help set healthy boundaries with parents, spouses, children, freidns, co-workers, and even yourself.

Edition details

• Publisher: Zondervan
• Publication date: 1992
• ISBN 10: 0310585902
• ISBN 13: 9780310585909
• Binding: Hardcover
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 304