Arguments (The School of Life Love) - Hardcover

The School Of Life

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 1912891115 ISBN 13: 9781912891115

Publisher: The School of Life Press, 2019

Synopsis

An average couple will have between thirty and fifty significant arguments a year - and yet we're seldom taught very much about why they happen and how they could grow a little less intense. This is a guide to arguments in love: it teaches us why they might occur, what their symptoms are, how we could learn some wiser ways of communicating and how we would ideally patch up after a fight. The book looks at twenty of the most common arguments - including ones about sex, money, in-laws, who is 'cold' and who is 'over-emotional' and the state of the bathroom and the finances. We recognise our own antics but also pick up consoling and wise ideas on how to skirt certain conflicts going forward. The tragedy of every sorry argument is that it is constructed around a horrific mismatch between the message we so badly want to send ('I need you to love me, know me, agree with me') and the manner in which we are able to deliver it (with impatient accusations, sulks, put-downs, sarcasm, exaggerated gesticulations and forceful 'f *** yous'). A bad argument is a failed endeavour to communicate; this is a definitive guide to how we might argue better. 'The priority is not so much to avoid points of contention as to learn to handle them in less counterproductively vindictive and more gently strategic ways. We need a lot help in order in order to acquire the complex art of converting our poisonous arguments into effective and compassionate dialogues.'

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About the Author:

The School of Life is devoted to developing emotional intelligence. It addresses issues such as how to find fulfilling work, how to master the art of relationships, how to understand one's past, how to achieve calm, and how better to understand and - where necessary - change the world. These ideas are delivered through a range of channels: from videos, books, and products - to classes, events, and one-to-one therapy sessions. The School of Life Press brings together the thinking and ideas of the School of Life creative team under the direction of series editor, Alain de Botton. Their books share a coherent, curated message that speaks with one voice: calm, reassuring, and sane.

About this edition

• Publisher: The School of Life Press
• Publication date: 2019
• ISBN 10: 1912891115
• ISBN 13: 9781912891115
• Binding: Hardcover
• Number of pages: 80