Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money: The Essential Parenting Guide to the College Years - Softcover

Johnson, Helen E.; Schelhas-Miller, Chrisine

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0312263740 ISBN 13: 9780312263744

Publisher: Golden Guides from st Martins Pr, 2000

Synopsis

Finally, a Dr. Spock for College Parents

Does your daughter call home in tears over the latest "crisis," leaving you feeling helpless and concerned? Is your son confused about his major? When children leave for college many parents feel uncertain about their shifting role. By emphasizing the importance of being a mentor, Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money shows that parents may have lost control over their college student, but they haven't lost influence.

Brimming with humorous case examples and realistic dialogues, this comprehensive guide covers the fundamental college issues, including:
* Preparing for College: what to bring, how to stay in touch, and how to handle money
* Adjusting Socially: roommates, stress, time management, and Greek life
* The Search for Identity: intimate relationships, choosing a major, and lifestyle and value decisions
* Handling Crises: depression, drug and alcohol abuse, dropping out, and eating disorders
* Postgraduate Choices: job hunting, internships, and graduate schools
Finally, a Dr. Spock for College Parents

Does your daughter call home in tears over the latest "crisis," leaving you feeling helpless and concerned? Is your son confused about his major? When children leave for college many parents feel uncertain about their shifting role. By emphasizing the importance of being a mentor, Don't Tell Me What to Do, Just Send Money shows that parents may have lost control over their college student, but they haven't lost influence.

Brimming with humorous case examples and realistic dialogues, this comprehensive guide covers the fundamental college issues, including:
* Preparing for College: what to bring, how to stay in touch, and how to handle money
* Adjusting Socially: roommates, stress, time management, and Greek life
* The Search for Identity: intimate relationships, choosing a major, and lifestyle and value decisions
* Handling Crises: depression, drug and alcohol abuse, dropping out, and eating disorders
* Postgraduate Choices: job hunting, internships, and graduate schools

About this title

Review:

"College consultant Johnson and educator Schelhas-Miller (Human Development/Cornell Univ.)...provide easily applicable tips on how to achieve the fine balance between their child's continued dependence and burgeoning adulthood. Concise in their points, the authors tackle everything from declaring a major to frat parties to campus security. With insight on how to allow a child to develop their own identity and make their own decisions and whether or not to Facebook-friend college-aged children, the authors urge against the tendency toward "helicopter parenting," or hovering. This is particularly difficult in the age of the "Electronic Umbilical Cord," to which the authors pay particular heed in their discussion of making the most of technology without overstepping boundaries. Most beneficial for parents, whether their child is college-aged or not, is the chapter entitled "When to Worry, When to Act," in which parents are instructed on how to deal with problems and crises, and how to tell the difference. A valuable guide for every parent." --"Kirkus Reviews"

College consultant Johnson and educator Schelhas-Miller (Human Development/Cornell Univ.)...provide easily applicable tips on how to achieve the fine balance between their child's continued dependence and burgeoning adulthood. Concise in their points, the authors tackle everything from declaring a major to frat parties to campus security. With insight on how to allow a child to develop their own identity and make their own decisions and whether or not to Facebook-friend college-aged children, the authors urge against the tendency toward "helicopter parenting," or hovering. This is particularly difficult in the age of the "Electronic Umbilical Cord," to which the authors pay particular heed in their discussion of making the most of technology without overstepping boundaries. Most beneficial for parents, whether their child is college-aged or not, is the chapter entitled "When to Worry, When to Act," in which parents are instructed on how to deal with problems and crises, and how to tell the difference. A valuable guide for every parent. "Kirkus Reviews""

"College consultant Johnson and educator Schelhas-Miller (Human Development/Cornell Univ.)...provide easily applicable tips on how to achieve the fine balance between their child's continued dependence and burgeoning adulthood. Concise in their points, the authors tackle everything from declaring a major to frat parties to campus security. With insight on how to allow a child to develop their own identity and make their own decisions and whether or not to Facebook-friend college-aged children, the authors urge against the tendency toward "helicopter parenting," or hovering. This is particularly difficult in the age of the "Electronic Umbilical Cord," to which the authors pay particular heed in their discussion of making the most of technology without overstepping boundaries. Most beneficial for parents, whether their child is college-aged or not, is the chapter entitled "When to Worry, When to Act," in which parents are instructed on how to deal with problems and crises, and how to tell the difference. A valuable guide for every parent." --Kirkus Reviews

About the Author:

Helen Johnson founded and directed Cornell University's first Parents' Program. She has worked for more than twenty-five years in higher education as a writer, career center director, assistant dean of students, and program manager. She is the parent of two recent college graduates and lives in Chapel Hill, North Carolina.

Christine Schelhas-Miller teaches adolescent development in the department of human development at Cornell University and is a consultant to independent, secondary schools on issues related to adolescent development. For over twenty years she has worked in higher education, providing academic, personal, and career counseling to students. She is the parent of two children and lives in Ithaca, New York.

About this edition

• Publisher: Golden Guides from st Martins Pr
• Publication date: 2000
• ISBN 10: 0312263740
• ISBN 13: 9780312263744
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 348