The Dance of Deception: Pretending and Truth-Telling in Women's Lives - Hardcover

Lerner, Harriet Goldhor

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0060168161 ISBN 13: 9780060168162

Publisher: HarperCollins, 1993

Synopsis

An exploration of the role of pretending and truth-telling in women's lives discusses the difference between privacy and secrecy, how women are encouraged to pretend, and how pretending prevents a deeper intimacy. 150,000 first printing. $125,000 ad/promo. Tour.

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Review:

Stunning in it s impact. --Betty Carter, M.S.W. Director Emerita, Family Institute of Westchester, New York.

A remarkable, beautifully written book. --Carol Tavris, author of Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)

"Stunning in it's impact."--Betty Carter, M.S.W. Director Emerita, Family Institute of Westchester, New York.

"A remarkable, beautifully written book."--Carol Tavris, author of Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me)

"A remarkable, beautifully written book illuminating ways for women to find integrity, courage, and voice in a world that rewards female silence and pretense."--Carol Tavris, Ph.D.

"Stunning in it's impact. This is a book to be read and reread."--Betty Carter, M.S.W. Director Emerita, Family Institute of Westchester, New York.

Stunning in it s impact. This is a book to be read and reread. --Betty Carter, M.S.W. Director Emerita, Family Institute of Westchester, New York."

A remarkable, beautifully written book illuminating ways for women to find integrity, courage, and voice in a world that rewards female silence and pretense. --Carol Tavris, Ph.D."

-Stunning in it's impact. This is a book to be read and reread.---Betty Carter, M.S.W. Director Emerita, Family Institute of Westchester, New York.

-A remarkable, beautifully written book illuminating ways for women to find integrity, courage, and voice in a world that rewards female silence and pretense.---Carol Tavris, Ph.D.

From the Back Cover:

From the best-selling author of 'The Dance of Anger' and 'The Dance of Intimacy' comes this groundbreaking exploration of the role of truth-telling and pretending in women's lives.

According to feminist psychotherapist Harriet G. Lerner, pretending is so inextricably linked with society's notions of feminine behaviour that it is, quite simply, what women are expected to do. Truth-telling, the opposite of this feminine stereotype, is always associated with authenticity, integrity and self-worth. Going beyond conventional distinctions between deception and honesty, between good and bad, Dr Lerner gives a penetrating and humane analysis of what lying represents in a society where women's "truths" are so often unspoken truths.

Exploring the concepts of lying and pretending, of truth-telling and honesty as they are played out both in women's intimate relationships and in society at large, 'The Dance of Deception' offers a convincing and wholly accessible analysis of this unacknowledged part of all our lives.

About this edition

• Publisher: HarperCollins
• Publication date: 1993
• ISBN 10: 0060168161
• ISBN 13: 9780060168162
• Binding: Hardcover
• Edition number: 1