Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships - Softcover

Gray, John

Softcover

ISBN 10: 072252840X ISBN 13: 9780722528402

Publisher: Thorsons, 1993

Synopsis

RO60063684. MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. 1993. In-8. Broché. Bon état, Couv. convenable, Dos satisfaisant, Intérieur frais. 286 pages. Premier plat illustré en couleurs. Texte en anglais.. . . . Classification Dewey : 306.8-Mariage et famille

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Review:

A classic and unique self-help book, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus tackles the perennial problems faced by couples everywhere. Gray tells an allegorical story of the Venusians and the Martians who move to Earth, having enjoyed wonderful and fulfilling relationships with one another for many years. However, as soon as they arrive on this planet, amnesia sets in! They can no longer remember that they are from different planets and all sorts of communication and emotional problems set in. Written in an unpretentious and jargon- free style, Gray's tactic of using "Venusian" and "Martian" to refer to the two genders (and he does comment that these roles are not necessarily based on sexual biology) avoids the dead-end path followed by so many people, of using sweeping statements such as: "men always..." or "women just don't understand...". Instead, he says: "Remember, Venusians are from a different planet, therefore..." or, "Martians need..." This in itself is worthwhile tactic, removing blame-culture and shifting communication onto a new level where it is OK not to be on the same wavelength all the time and not to automatically understand all your partner's needs. His new naming strategy even manages to be amusing, in a way that many books in this area can fail to be, although the writing tends towards over-simplicity at times.

He discusses every aspect of relationships--but most importantly he does this in practical ways. For example, he lists common statements that a person in a relationship say to their partner, what that person intends them to mean and what the person to whom it is directed actually hears, or thinks they mean. Gray goes on to suggest ways to say what you intended that are more appropriate for the Venusian or Martian audienc--he even compiles lists of translations of common male/female exchanges.

Each chapter takes situations from either the Venusian or Martian side, making the book easy to dip into, as well as enjoyable to read cover to cover. The case for each interplanetary race is put simply and in a very down-to-earth manner, and the book avoids trying to be too clever for its own good.

Some tips from the book: Venusians take note--Martians also have monthly cycles of emotions, and need to retreat into their "cave" every now and then, so Venusians needn't feel shut out when their favourite Martian retreats without a word. The Martians could help by telling the Venusians that while they are retreating right now, they will soon be back out and they will then discuss any concerns the Venusians have. Martians should be reassured that, although Venusians climb down into their well every now and then, it is not that the Martians have hurt them--they too are taking time out. Their favourite Venusian will be back soon, ready to re-embrace their closeness.

The personality of the author shines through, the tone of the book being helpful, friendly and non-judgmental, kind and well-meaning, although the self-help strategy of repeating and summarising points results in the book seeming somewhat directionless. It is nevertheless an essential title for the bookshelf of every self-respecting self-help addict, and is a good place to start for the curious. It does also have some real gems of wisdom and new strategies--all in all, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a star guide to understanding the constellations of coupledom. --Alison Jardine

Review:

truth behind every man and woman... this book is written in a way so that u may transform yourself step-by-step,I found myself changed after reading each chapter. My relationship has become more loving and mature than before. thanks to the writer who has such a great mind to read human's emotions and to give such wonderful solutions. I am in a relationship since many years but there something that made a gap b/w me and my spouse but after reading this book i corrected my mistakes and told my spouse that what should he do or not do. we r very happy and satisfy new. A must read for every couple..doesn't matter you have any issue or not. --Rashmi Darbari May 4, 2013

I wish if I came across this book before may be I would saved my marriage. A brief about the author of this book - He himself is divorced but may be by the time he got married for the second time he was a completely transformed personality. He has not only helped himself but by the means of this book he has helped saved many marriages. Though this is a book of late 90's but still relevant in today's times as well. A MUST to read by each COUPLE. Honestly you will notice a change in terms of growing differences of your relationship. I am a big fan of John Gray and consider this as a gift by him to Society. PLEASE BUY IT!!! ITS WORTH THE PRICE. A MUST FOR BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE TO READ. --JAI Oct 25, 2011

For a loving & Beautiful relationship with your partner Its such a great book for both men and women. Every Man and Woman should read this book to have loving and Beautiful relationship . --Saurabh Kokate Oct 2, 2011

About this edition

• Publisher: Thorsons
• Publication date: 1993
• ISBN 10: 072252840X
• ISBN 13: 9780722528402
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 286