I'm not Mad, I Just Hate You: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict - Hardcover

Cohen-Sandler, Roni, Ph.D.; Silver, Michelle

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0670883433 ISBN 13: 9780670883431

Publisher: Viking, 1999

Synopsis

Almost without exception, the teen years are tumultuous for both girls and their mothers. Teen girls, who are socialized to stifle their anger and avoid confrontation, frequently take out their frustration on their mothers as the only safe and available targets. The good news is that with patience and the right guidance, mothers can transform the teenage years into positive ones and enrich the mother- daughter relationship. "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" combines the expertise of a clinical psychologist (who has worked with women and adolescent girls for more than twenty years) with that of a senior editor at a leading teen magazine. The book demonstrates how mother-daughter friction during adolescence, managed creatively, empowers girls by teaching them invaluable skills and can even foster intimacy. Discussion of social, emotional, cultural, and psychological issues is interwoven with the voices of mothers and daughters in case studies that are illuminating and reassuring. In the wake of widely popular books exposing the perils adolescent girls face, "I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" provides mothers with much-needed practical strategies to help their daughters grow into emotionally healthy and capable adults. At the same time, women will encourage loving and lifelong connections with their daughters.

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Review:

"I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!" takes on the formidable challenge of dealing with a daughter's explosive teenage years . . . [with] practical tools for staying connected". -- The Los Angeles Times

From the Publisher:

BOOKLIST REVIEW - 3/1/99
The time of potentially the most severe mother-daughter conflict, so dramatically captured in the title of this book, is the daughter's teenage years. The mother of an adolecent daughter needs to be able to draw on every possible resource to provide the understanding and suport during this time, which is likely also to be a pivotal time in her own life. Cohen-Sandler, a clinical psychologist specializing in issues of women and adolescent girls, and Silver, senior editor of the official Girl Scouts' magazine,Girls' Life, have done an excellent and very thorough job of providing insight and constructive suggestions for mothers of adolescent girls. Perhaps the most reassuring message embodied in this work is this: take heart--no matter how bizarre the relationship may feel, it is very likely others have encountered similar confusion and frustration. And there is hope. This book offers solid ground when it may feel like things are falling apart. --Grace Fill

About this edition

• Publisher: Viking
• Publication date: 1999
• ISBN 10: 0670883433
• ISBN 13: 9780670883431
• Binding: Hardcover
• Number of pages: 288