Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence: Helping Preteens and Teens Get Ready for the Real World - Softcover

Teresa Bolick

Softcover

ISBN 10: 1931412413 ISBN 13: 9781931412414

Publisher: Fair Winds Press, 2003

Synopsis

Sex. Slang. Slumber parties. The preoccupations of adolescents with Asperger Syndrome are no different than those of other teens, but they can be much more confusing. The lack of social skills and ability to grasp conversational nuances that characterize AS make adolescence the most difficult life stage.

æWhy can I swear in front of my friends, but not in front of the teacher?Æ
æWhy do I have to pay attention when IÆm not interested in what my friend is saying?Æ
æWhat does it mean to ægo outÆ with somebody?Æ

Asperger Syndrome is characterized by a reliance on clear guidelines, and in adolescence the social guidelines become murky and confusing. In Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence, child psychologist Teresa Bolick presents strategies for helping the ten to eighteen-year-old achieve happiness and success by maximizing the benefits of AS and minimizing the drawbacks.

YouÆll Learn:
-How to work with the school to help the AS child learn and succeed.
-Strategies for turning common AS traits like preoccupations and routines into positive strengths.
-How to help the AS teen learn to manage unforeseen glitches with grace.
-The best ways to talk to your teen about friendship, love, romance, and sex.

Along the way, youÆll be inspired by success stories of dozens of AS teens. With the help of this book, youÆll learn that it is possible for an adolescent with Asperger Syndrome to achieve unimaginable success.

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Review:

Dr. Teresa Bolick's book is a welcome contribution to the literature on adolescence and Asperger Syndrome. Most books about the syndrome address the problems of young children, even though adolescence is often the most challenging time for both Aspies and their parents. Adolescence is a period in which Aspies begin to take more interest in other people. They crave social interaction, yet they feel more isolated than ever. The rapid physical growth and changes of puberty can cause mood swings. School can become more of a challenge because the student now has a variety of teachers in a larger, more complex setting. For parents of teens with Asperger Syndrome, adolescence becomes a 'deadline decade' in which the pressure is on to help their child prepare for an independent life, employment and marriage. Dr. Bolick designed this book as a guide to help parents navigate these uncharted and turbulent waters. She divides the book into ten chapters, covering topics such as self-control, learning, friendship, communication and independence. She presents each area and describes the problematic behaviors an Aspie may present in the first ten pages of each chapter. The final five pages of a chapter contain practical advice under the heading 'How can we help?' The descriptions of typical Aspie behaviors and even much of her advice will be familiar to those who have read other books about Asperger Syndrome. She cites many of the usual authorities and repeats anecdotes from famous adults with autism spectrum such as Liane Wiley and Temple Grandin. However, what really stands out in her work are the stories about real teens under her care as a clinician. The anecdotes bring the material to life and give it focus. They also reveal the author as a kind and compassionate listener who sees each person as an individual first with Asperger Syndrome as only one component of personality. For example, readers get to meet 'Ralph,' a high school junior, after his parents bring him to Dr. Bolick because he 'talks funny' and upsets his classmates. It turns out that Ralph is speaking Arabic, a language he picked up when his father, an archeologist, worked in Egypt. Even his parents don't realize that Ralph has also picked up Spanish, French and Hebrew. He mumbles in Arabic to himself when he feels angry. Before his work with Dr. Bolick, everyone considered Ralph to be an odd, unmotivated student with no real academic gifts. There are only two drawbacks to Asperger Syndrome and Adolescence. The first is that Dr. Bolick often seems behind the times. For example, she writes that when she was a teenager in the 1950s and 1960s, 'Guys called a girl a prude if she didn't go 'parking' with her steady guy on Saturday night. Sometimes the steady guy threatened to break up if she didn't at least go to 'first base.''Most of today's parents were born long after the sexual revolution took place and would not relate to such statements. The second drawback is that if parents followed her advice, it would take up almost every waking moment of their lives. She explains how to teach your teenager mathematical operations, how to take class notes, and how to help him get ready for school. She would have you practice non-verbal communication, help him when friends come over, and teach daily affirmations. Some of the advice is too obvious, such as 'don't bring weapons to school.' Nevertheless, Dr. Bolick's book is a useful tool for parents of teens with Asperger Syndrome. Parents could simply read through it or use it as a reference tool whenever a problem arises. Dr. Bolick shows intelligence and compassion even as she provides many useful insights. --mylittle professor dot com

This is the best book I have read on AS in quite a while. It is one of the few that addresses the differences in adolescence. Those of us who have been in the AS world for awhile know there is a lot of info out there for younger children. Now that our children are getting older, their challenges change. This book really helps in that area. I loaned my copy to my son's educational assistant and she doesn't want to give it back ! Great book,must read for parents of AS adolescents --mhhome

This book is organized and very readable. Each section discusses an area where a person with Asperger's Syndrome might have a deficit/challenge. For each "problem" area, there is a short clinical discussion of what the deficiency means (for example, what the heck is "executive function"), then a practical description of how this difficulty might manifest itself in behavior (difficulty with performing particular tasks), and finally some ways that the parent/teacher/other might help the youngster work through or around the problem. This book is my current favorite, as my 11 year old son moves from the shelter of elementary school into the more open middle school environment. The book addresses social skills, academic skills, and has lots of ideas for when and how to help (or keep out of the way!) your child. One section that really impressed me is about special interests, rituals, and routines... The author emphasizes that these need not be viewed as obssessions, compulsions, and rigidity of behavior! --Beth Jones

Synopsis:

Asperger Syndrome (AS) is on the high-functioning end of the autism spectrum and is characterized by a lack of social skills, abnormal preoccupation with certain objects or tasks and the inability to control one's rage. It is also characterized by high creativity and passion that can be too often squelched in a parent's or teacher's efforts to manage the behaviour of the AS child. There is no specific treatment or cure. This is a relatively new diagnosis, and has been retroactively applied to geniuses like Vladimir Nabokov. But for the modern-day kid, who has to follow the social norms of the day, which include sitting for long periods of time in a chair, AS can be excruciatingly difficult. This book explains the condition and gives coping strategies.

About this edition

• Publisher: Fair Winds Press
• Publication date: 2003
• ISBN 10: 1931412413
• ISBN 13: 9781931412414
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 192