Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide For the Betrayed

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If you are reading this most likely a dream has derailed in your life, and the world you knew yesterday no longer exists. You may feel as if your heart has been wounded beyond repair. I understand; I stumbled along the same path of betrayal that you are on right now.
 
The second your loved ones betrayal was exposed two paths ruthlessly appeared before you, and in the next days, weeks or months you will decide which path you will choose. You will either choose the vengeful bitterness route, or the hopeful forgiving route. Each will have its challenges - both will be painful. I had to pick my pain, and so will you. I knew whichever route I chose (whether my marriage stayed intact or not) I would be confronted with the unknown, and my journey would be confusing, frightening and emotionally draining.
 
As we reel in the aftereffects of our loved ones behaviors this life-altering event will continue to bombard our wounded hearts with more apprehensions and more questions. In order to move forward in a healthy healing way we must be willing to ask ourselves these questions. What will my heartbreak reveal about me? Will I allow this event to teach me - to grow me?  Will I decide to move forward, in spite of the pain? Will I choose to one-day love again and trust again?  
 
Sadly, I have met those who have chosen the vengeful bitterness route and they wander - lost, heartbroken, angry and mistrusting. Oftentimes lashing out their unprocessed hurt on anyone who comes too close to the wound that never heals. I know they did not set out to become frozen in their pain, but I learned that if the emotional wounds of betrayal are denied, ignored, and purposefully buried, they will go unhealed, which will cause more pain and more insecurity and more neediness. The distrusting cycle will continue until the wounded one is willing to face who they are, face who they have become as a result of the betrayal, and decide what they are willing to do to heal from the devastating choices created by their loved one.
 
Christopher Reeve so rightly stated, "Once you choose hope, anything's possible." I agree. The hopeful, forgiving path was a long and emotionally laborious path but I am truly thankful for the lessons I learned along the way. They were life changing and life giving. I am stronger because of my journey, and I am wiser because of my experience, and as I continued on the hopeful forgiving path my choice to trust and to love once again has proven to be the greatest healing gift of all.

Yes, betrayal has changed me and with candid vulnerability I share that journey of change with you. I want to encourage you to choose the hopeful and healing route. It is on that path you will discover that you can survive nightmares of the heart, and once you awaken a new life can be found.
 
- Patti Snodgrass

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In a matter of seconds, as the words of betrayal flowed from my husband's lips my life - the life I had known before no longer existed; it was shattered into a million fragments - altered forever. I remember all too well the intense feelings of fear, anger, confusion and despair. I know how lost the faithful one feels, and how emotionally exhausting each day becomes as they struggle to survive the onslaught of emotions that continually pummel and shock their body - their mind.
 
Surviving Your Worst Nightmare was written to be a guidebook to the aftershocks of infidelity. With candid vulnerability I share my journal entries, which are interspersed with vignettes of my life to help the reader know that they are not alone in their thinking, and with their feelings. The second my husband confessed his unfaithfulness I had so many questions - so many fears. My insecurities were magnified; I questioned my body image and my mental stability. The reader will relate with me as I question the past and I ponder what might have been. I encourage the reader to be angry, and to also embrace the wide range of emotions as they move forward towards a healthy recovery. 
 
My hope for you, the faithful one, is to bring stability, clarity and hope to your wounded heart as you navigate the painful journey of life after betrayal. Whether you decide to stay in the marriage, or feel it best to move on, Surviving Your Worst Nightmare: A Guide for the Betrayed can help you process your feelings and help you to know that you are not alone on your journey. 
- Patti Snodgrass
 

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