Mating in Captivity: Sex, Lies and Domestic Bliss - Softcover

Perel, Esther

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0340943734 ISBN 13: 9780340943731

Publisher: Hodder & Stoughton, 2007

Synopsis

'If sex - or rather, the lack of sex - in marriages and long-term relationships isn't a hot topic, it's because no one dares talk about it. Or admit to it. Until now ...' Observer

Can we continue to desire what we already have?

Does good intimacy always make for good sex?

Are domesticity and passion compatible?

In Mating in Captivity, psychotherapist Esther Perel tackles the paradox of modern love. Our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness and absolute candour is at odds with erotic desire. Which makes long-term love an increasingly contradictory and messy business. Perel looks at why it's hard to want what you already have, even in the most committed relationship. And teaches how you can reconcile domestic bliss with erotic excitement, and rekindle lost passion. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that could change the way you love and live.

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Review

'At precisely the same moment that you're being shocked by her, you're also acknowledging the validity of her ideas. Perel's ideas are like the chorus of a really good pop song - instantly familiar because they resonate deeply. It's all rather terrifying in its intuitiveness and its pure rightness'

(Observer)

'Reads like a cross between the works of Jacques Lacan and French Women Don't Get Fat' (The New Yorker)

'As revelatory as it is straightforward' (Publishing Weekly)

'Enormous fun'

(Sunday Times)

From the Author

I wrote this book because, in 22 years of practice in six
different languages, I've met couples over and over again who were having a
good relationship, who love each other, but who have no sex, no tingle! I
met couples who had a bad relationship, and who I helped to have a good
relationship again, and the expectation was that the sex would just come
back - but it didn't. I began to think there's something in this premise -
that if sex is wrong, the relationship is wrong; and equally that more
talk, intimacy and closeness will equal more sex, better sex - that just
doesn't work. I knew I was on to something.

About this edition

• Publisher: Hodder & Stoughton
• Publication date: 2007
• ISBN 10: 0340943734
• ISBN 13: 9780340943731
• Binding: Paperback
• Language: English
• Number of pages: 272