The Perfect Sister: What Draws Us Together, What Drives Us Apart - Hardcover

Millman, Marcia

Hardcover

ISBN 10: 0151008957 ISBN 13: 9780151008957

Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2004

Synopsis

She's like a sister to me" is the best thing a woman can say about a friend. Now, social psychologist and bestselling author Marcia Millman examines what makes sisters tick. Through extensive research, Millman gets behind the façade and shows how sisters stay close and loving and what sets them at odds.

The lifelong relationship between sisters forms in the nursery and in adolescence. Mothers and fathers and their treatment of their children are crucial to how girls get along. Favoritism, too much responsibility, and differing talents all drive sisters apart. Yet sisters can be each others' closest companion throughout life, and the quality of their relationship takes on greater meaning-and is subject to greater scrutiny-over time. Millman gives the reader insight into our sisters and ourselves, and the moving stories in this book offer the key to understanding, appreciating, and enriching this important bond.

About this title

From the Back Cover:

Marcia Millman is one of the most talented observers of intimate life of our time. She brings to mind Herbert Gans or Studs Terkle: like these gifted interviewers, she gives us her fine insights but lets her subject’s story and humanity directly touch the reader. Sisters will and should devour this book; those of us who are sister-deprived will find out fascinating and touching details about family life and women who share blood, history, and personal growth through their connection with one another.
- Pepper Schwartz, author of Everything You Know About Love and Sex is Wrong
Marcia Millman's study of sisterhood gives us new insights into an age-old bond-one that has been relatively ignored by social scientists. Combining research and readability, THE PERFECT SISTER will help countless siblings understand and improve their relationships."
- Marilyn Yalom, author of History of the Wife and Birth of the Chess Queen
From THE PERFECT SISTER
"I would do anything for my sister. I adored her. And she was always there for me in the important ways. But it wasn't equal. I accommodated to her. We were supposed to take turns going to a grocery store that was a block away, and I would go with her when it was her turn, just to be with her. But she never came with me when it was my turn. I'd have to trudge to the store by myself. Many years later, when I worked in an office, it was always such a powerful thing for me when a friend was willing to walk me to the corner for lunch or walk me to the vending machines, just to be with me. Because my sister wouldn't do it. But we were the most important person in each other's lives; she was my lifeline." (page 34)
"Growing up, I was like her mother, not just her sister. I was burdened as a child. Taking care of the twins kept me from having a social life." (page 244)

|Marcia Millman is one of the most talented observers of intimate life of our time. She brings to mind Herbert Gans or Studs Terkle: like these gifted interviewers, she gives us her fine insights but lets her subject’s story and humanity directly touch the reader. Sisters will and should devour this book; those of us who are sister-deprived will find out fascinating and touching details about family life and women who share blood, history, and personal growth through their connection with one another.
- Pepper Schwartz, author of Everything You Know About Love and Sex is Wrong
Marcia Millman's study of sisterhood gives us new insights into an age-old bond-one that has been relatively ignored by social scientists. Combining research and readability, THE PERFECT SISTER will help countless siblings understand and improve their relationships."
- Marilyn Yalom, author of History of the Wife and Birth of the Chess Queen
From THE PERFECT SISTER
"I would do anything for my sister. I adored her. And she was always there for me in the important ways. But it wasn't equal. I accommodated to her. We were supposed to take turns going to a grocery store that was a block away, and I would go with her when it was her turn, just to be with her. But she never came with me when it was my turn. I'd have to trudge to the store by myself. Many years later, when I worked in an office, it was always such a powerful thing for me when a friend was willing to walk me to the corner for lunch or walk me to the vending machines, just to be with me. Because my sister wouldn't do it. But we were the most important person in each other's lives; she was my lifeline." (page 34)
"Growing up, I was like her mother, not just her sister. I was burdened as a child. Taking care of the twins kept me from having a social life." (page 244)

About the Author:

MARCIA MILLMAN, social psychologist and professor of sociology at the University of California Santa Cruz, is author of the bestseller Such a Pretty Face: Being Fat in America, Warm Hearts and Cold Cash, and The Unkindest Cut. She lives in the San Francisco Bay area and New York.

About this edition

• Publisher: Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
• Publication date: 2004
• ISBN 10: 0151008957
• ISBN 13: 9780151008957
• Binding: Hardcover
• Number of pages: 352