Broke Millennial Talks Money: Scripts, Stories, and Advice to Navigate Awkward Financial Conversatons: Scripts, Stories, and Advice to Navigate Awkward Financial Conversations - Softcover

Erin Lowry

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0143133659 ISBN 13: 9780143133650

Publisher: J.P.Tarcher,U.S./Perigee Bks.,U.S., 2020

Synopsis

Let's face it - talking about money is always awkward. In this user-friendly and approachable guide, finance writer Erin Lowry helps take the stress out of these tricky conversations. With scripts, tips, and troubleshooting advice, she takes you through every possible money talk scenario, including: · how to tell your friends you can't afford the same lifestyle they can · how to ask your parents if they can afford retirement and if they'll need your support as they age · how to talk to your colleagues about your salary and negotiate with your boss · how to broach the subject of a prenup with your fiancé Lowry arms you with all of the financial knowledge you'll need in order to get the most out of each interaction, whether that's with your friends, your spouse, your employer, or your mum. It's time to demystify our money and thrash out these tough topics with the important people in our lives, and this helpful book will make it all much easier.

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About the Author

Erin Lowry is the author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together and Broke Millennial Takes On Investing: A Beginner's Guide to Leveling Up Your Money. Her first book was named by MarketWatch as one of the best money books of 2017. Lowry's been featured in The New York Times and The Wall Street Journal, and on CBS Sunday Morning, CNBC, and Cheddar. She has written for USA Today, Cosmopolitan, and Refinery29.

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Introduction

On a surprisingly warm New York City winter night in 2020, Peach and I were exiting a recording studio when he said, “I think it’s important to make sure people know we don’t always reach a clean, easy solu­tion to our money disagreements.”

The two of us had just completed a rare media interview together. Over the course of my then- seven years being “Broke Millennial,” Peach— my pseudonym for my husband— had been a character in my work. He had the authority to decide if and how he wanted his image and information shared, but he usually wasn’t the one being interviewed.

We’d been asked to do an interview for a podcast about the experi­ence of getting a prenuptial agreement— a highly taboo subject that al­most always elicits an immediate reaction from people. (You probably just had one yourself.)

Before the interview, we’d had several conversations about our own boundaries and what we were and weren’t comfortable letting the world know. I share a lot with you in my books and on social media, but, per­haps surprisingly, there are morsels I keep for myself.

Because we’d gone into the interview knowing where we drew the line— and we were more than a year removed from our prenup process— it had started to come off like we’d just flawlessly navigated the experi­ence with nary a speed bump. That was, of course, not the case.

We had disagreements that sometimes escalated to fights with hurt feelings. We learned things about each other and our relationships to money, possessions, and perceived ownership and entitlement. We still have one reoccurring debate that has yet to be settled. (Don’t worry, we’re going to talk a lot more about prenups in part 4!)

Even though Peach and I don’t always see eye to eye on finances, we do one thing a lot: talk.

Talking about money is critical.
 
Why I Wanted To Write This Book

A few years ago, I noticed a trend in what people were asking me to speak about at events and in the media. They really wanted to learn how to talk about money. Okay, no one phrased it that way. They’d ask specific ques­tions about awkward interactions that were seemingly only made un­comfortable because of money. For example, getting a Venmo request from a friend asking you to split the cost of the wine she purchased for the movie night she invited you to. Or how to travel with friends when everyone is on a different budget. Or whether you should help pay off your boyfriend’s student loans. Or whether you really need to [you can fill in the blank with anything about wedding season here].

This got me thinking about the fact that there really wasn’t a definitive guide out there on how to navigate these conversations. There was a smat­tering of information here and there in other books, but none of them of­fered scripts and stories and advice on how to actually talk about money.

It took a long time to figure out how to explain this book to people (honestly, I’m still trying to be more succinct). When you say, “It’s a book about relationships and money,” people immediately translate that to ro­mantic relationships.

So I pivoted to saying, “It’s a book about how to talk about money with all the important people in your life.” The response? Blank stares.

Then I tried: “It’s a book that helps you talk about money at work, with family, with friends, and with your romantic partner.”

“Oh, I need that book!” was the general response.

Edition details

• Publisher: J.P.Tarcher,U.S./Perigee Bks.,U.S.
• Publication date: 2020
• Language: English
• ISBN 10: 0143133659
• ISBN 13: 9780143133650
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 304