How We Are (How to Live Trilogy 1)

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We live in small worlds.

An astonishing literary debut and the first book in the monumental How To Live trilogy, How We Are explores the power of habit and the difficulty of change. A story told in three parts, this profound and ambitious trilogy gets right to the heart of what it means to be human: how we work, how we break, and how we mend.

As Vincent Deary shows us, we live most of our lives automatically, in small worlds of more or less comfortable routine - what he calls Act One. Conscious change requires deliberate effort, and so, for the most part, we avoid it. But inevitably, from within or without, something will come along to disturb our small worlds - some News From Elsewhere. And with ingrained reluctance, we begin the work of adjustment: Act Two.

Over decades of psychotherapeutic work, Deary has been a witness to the theatre of change - the way that ordinary people get stuck, struggle with new circumstances, and eventually transform their lives and get better. He is also keenly aware that novelists, poets, philosophers and theologians have grappled with these experiences for far longer than psychologists have. Drawing on his own personal experience, and a staggering range of literary, philosophical and cultural sources, Deary has produced a mesmerizing and universal portrait of the human condition.

Part psychologist, part philosopher, part novelist, Deary helps us to see how we can resist being mere habit machines, and make our acts and our lives more fully our own.

Vincent Deary is a health psychologist at Northumbria University. This, his first book, is part one of the How To Live trilogy, and will be followed by How We Break (book 2) and How We Mend (book 3).

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We live in small worlds.

Conscious change requires deliberate effort, and so, for the most part, we avoid it. But what happens when something occurs, from within or without, that changes all that? The first book in the mesmerizing How To Live trilogy, How We Are examines how we negotiate change in our everyday lives - the way we build personal narratives around the people, places and things that surround us, and what happens when our story is disrupted, whether by small acts or profound change. Drawing on personal stories from everyday lives in transition, and a staggering range of literary and cultural references, from Rebecca to Mad Men to Proust, Deary shows us how we can resist being mere habit machines, and make our acts and our lives more fully our own.

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This is a book that gets your mind whizzing off in lots of directions... It's crammed with ideas. It makes your head spin, in a good way. (William Leith Spectator)

Exhilarating... a lyrical, consoling exploration... It takes guts to recognise that change is called for, and more to follow it through. This book - so long as you don't read it on autopilot - should help (Oliver Burkeman The Guardian)

Fascinating, profound, wonderfully well-observed... [ How We Are] could change lives (Bel Mooney The Daily Mail)

The one self-help book that's actually worth reading ( Spectator)

An honest, provisional, self-searching voice and a vision rich in images and characters' stories... A trilogy entitled How To Live might easily find itself stranded in the self-help sections of the bookshops. To open the first volume, however, is to realise that this would be an injustice and that any number of other shelves could claim it for themselves ( Financial Times)

'Are you living the life you want to lead?' That was the question that one 40-year-old NHS psychotherapist answered by changing his own life in order to write a book that could change yours (Carole Cadwalladr Observer)

A guidebook for humans ( The Journal)

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