DONT YOU EVER: My Mother and Her Secret Son - Softcover

Bishop, Mary Carter

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0062400746 ISBN 13: 9780062400741

Publisher: HarperPb, 2019

Synopsis

"In this profound memoir, Mary Carter Bishop takes an openhearted and unflinching look at a family history that is equal parts love story and requiem for a brother she barely knew. Bishop turns her formidable investigative journalism skills inward to unearth long-simmering class and culture divides in bucolic rural Virginia."--Beth Macy

From a prizewinning journalist, Mary Carter Bishop, a moving and beautifully rendered memoir about the half-brother she didn't know existed that hauntingly explores family, class, secrets, and fate.

Applying for a passport as an adult, Mary Carter Bishop made a shocking discovery. She had a secret half-brother. Her mother, a farm manager's wife on a country estate, told Mary Carter the abandoned boy was a youthful "mistake" from an encounter with a married man. There'd been a home for unwed mothers; foster parents; an orphanage.

Nine years later, Mary Carter tracked Ronnie down at the barbershop where he worked, and found a near-broken man--someone kind, and happy to meet her, but someone also deeply and irreversibly damaged by a life of neglect and abuse at the hands of an uncaring system. He was also disfigured because of a rare medical condition that would eventually kill him, three years after their reunion. During that window, Mary Carter grew close to Ronnie, and as she learned more about him she became consumed by his story. How had Ronnie's life gone so wrong when hers had gone so well? How could she reconcile the doting, generous mother she knew with a woman who could not bring herself to acknowledge her own son?

Digging deep into her family's lives for understanding, Mary Carter unfolds a sweeping story of religious intolerance, poverty, fear, ambition, class, and social expectations. Don't You Ever is a modern Dickensian tale about a child seemingly cursed from birth; a woman shattered by guilt; a husband plagued by self-doubt; a prodigal daughter whose innocence was cruelly snatched away--all living in genteel central Virginia, a world defined by extremes of rural poverty and fabulous wealth.

A riveting memoir about a family haunted by a shameful secret, Don't You Ever is a powerful story of a woman's search for her long-hidden sibling, and the factors that profoundly impact our individual destinies.

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Review

"In lesser hands, this memoir could've flopped, but Bishop is a seasoned award-winning newspaper reporter who reveals a fascinating segment of her life in clear, unflinching style.... [Don't You Ever is] brave and terrific."--Atlanta Journal-Constitution

"A powerful study in empathy."--Charlotte Observer

"In this profound memoir, Bishop takes an open-hearted and unflinching look at a family history that is equal parts love story and requiem for a brother she barely knew. Bishop turns her formidable investigative journalism skills inward to unearth long-simmering class and culture divides in bucolic rural Virginia."--Beth Macy, author of Truevine and Factory Man

"Bishop digs deep into her own past, exposing class structure...genteel poverty, self-loathing, and self-doubt in a deeply honest manner... This powerful tale lays bare the cancer of shame and its often devastating results."--Publishers Weekly (starred review)

"To the extraordinary benefit of readers, Bishop turns her prize-winning journalistic skills towards her family's history in her first book.... Bishop's research and clear, heartfelt writing render her story deeply personal and culturally essential."--Booklist (starred review)

"The narrative moves fluidly... Both of the author's key subjects come across as baffling, complicated individuals, deserving of love and respect despite their flaws, shaped by a society that viewed a mother who had a child out of wedlock as shameful. A precise and honest depiction of a family wound that has still not entirely healed."--Kirkus Reviews

"For three decades Mary Carter Bishop has stood at the forefront of Virginia journalists, thanks to her relentlessness as a reporter and her elegance, control, and empathy as a storyteller. With Don't You Ever, she applies these gifts to a deeply personal tale at once tragic, infuriating, and wondrous, and reveals herself to be as big-hearted in life as she is on the page. Readers who've missed her past work owe themselves the pleasure of meeting her now."--Earl Swift, author of Chesapeake Requiem

From the Back Cover

While applying for a passport as an adult, Mary Carter Bishop made a shocking discovery: she had a secret half-brother. Her mother, a farm manager's wife on a country estate, told Mary Carter that the abandoned boy was a youthful "mistake" from an encounter with a married man. There'd been a home for unwed mothers, foster parents, an orphanage.

Nine years later, Mary Carter tracked Ronnie down at the barbershop where he worked and found a near-broken man--someone kind and happy to meet her, but someone deeply and irreversibly damaged by a life of neglect and abuse at the hands of an uncaring system. He was also disfigured due to a rare medical condition that would eventually kill him, three years after their reunion. During that window of time, Mary Carter grew close to Ronnie and became consumed by his story. How had Ronnie's life gone so wrong while hers had gone so well? How could she reconcile the doting, generous mother she knew with the woman who could not bring herself to acknowledge her own son?

Digging deep into her family's lives for understanding, Mary Carter unfolds a sweeping narrative of religious intolerance, poverty, fear, ambition, class, and social expectations. Don't You Ever is a Dickensian tale of a woman's search for her long-hidden sibling and of the factors that profoundly impact our individual destinies.

About this edition

• Publisher: HarperPb
• Publication date: 2019
• ISBN 10: 0062400746
• ISBN 13: 9780062400741
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 272