But I Love Him: Protecting Your Teen Daughter from Controlling, Abusive Dating Relationships - Softcover

Murray, Jill

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0060957298 ISBN 13: 9780060957292

Publisher: Harper Perennial, 2013

Synopsis

One in three girls will be in a controlling, abusive dating relationship before she graduates from high school - from verbal or emotional abuse to sexual abuse or physical battering. Is your daughter in danger?

Dr. Jill Murray speaks on the topic of dating violence at high schools around the country, reaching more than 10,000 students, teachers, and counsellors each year. In every school she visits, she is approached by teenage girls in miserable relationships who, when confronted with the option of breaking up with the boy, exclaim, "But I love him!"

Many young women - and their parents, aren't even aware of the indications of a potentially abusive relationship. What's most alarming is that these warning signs are also some of the behaviours that girls find most flattering:

A boy pages and calls a girl often - but as a form of control, not affection.

He wants to spend all his time with her, but eventually won't allow her to spend time with her friends.

He says "I love you" very early in the relationship.

These behaviours can escalate into blaming, isolating, manipulating, threatening, humiliation, and sexual and physical abuse.

In But I Love Him, Dr. Murray identifies these controlling, abusive patterns of behaviour and helps you get your daughter out of the relationship without alienating her. You will learn what draws her to this type of relationship, why she has a hard time talking to you about it, the special barriers teens face when breaking off a relationship, and what's going on in the mind of a teen abuser. Dr. Murray will help you show your teen what a respectful relationship looks like, and teach her the importance of respecting herself. edition.

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Review:

"The testimonials [and] Murray's psychoanalysis help the reader understand the eerie undertones in abusive relationships; [the book] speaks to the heart of parents." San Jose Mercury News "Even parents whose daughters have not experienced abuse would benefit from this book. Murray describes how parents can talk to their daughters not just about sex, but also about dating and the elements of a healthy relationship. "Los Angeles Times"Murray details the warning signs [of abusive relationships] so that parents can prevent their teen-age daughters from entering this dangerous cycle."The Times Picayune

About the Author:

Dr. Jill Murray is a psychotherapist with a private practice in Laguna Niguel, California. She speaks to thousands of students and parents in high schools around the country each year on the topic of abusive teen relationships, a focus she developed while serving as lead therapist at a domestic violence shelter for women and children. Her appearances on Oprah, Leeza, and radio call-in shows have generated overwhelming response from concerned parents nationwide. She lives in Laguna Niguel.

About this edition

• Publisher: Harper Perennial
• Publication date: 2013
• ISBN 10: 0060957298
• ISBN 13: 9780060957292
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 210