Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You

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"If you really loved me..."

"After all I've done for you..."

"How can you be so selfish..."

Do any of the above sound familiar? They're all examples of emotional blackmail, a powerful form of manipulation in which people close to us threaten to punish us for not doing what they want. Emotional blackmailers know how much we value our relationships with them. They know our vulnerabilities and our deepest secrets. They are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and coworkers, our friends and our lovers. And no matter how much they care about us, they use this intimate knowledge to give themselves the payoff they want: our compliance.

Susan Forward knows what pushes our hot buttons. Just as John Gray illuminates the communications gap between the sexes in Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus, and Harriet Lerner describes an intricate dynamic in The Dance of Anger, so Susan Forward presents the anatomy of a relationship damaged by manipulation, and gives readers an arsenal of tools to fight back. In her clear, no-nonsense style, Forward provides powerful, practical strategies for blackmail targets, including checklists, practice scenarios and concrete communications techniques that will strengthen relationships and break the blackmail cycle for good.

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DO IMPORTANT PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE:
• constantly threaten to end the relationship if you don't do what they want?
• always want more, no matter how much you give?
• shower you with approval when you give in to them and take it away when you don't
• consistently label you as selfish, bad or greedy when you don't do what they want?
• use money as a weapon to get their way?
• say things like 'After all I've done for you…' or 'If you really loved me…?'

If you answer 'yes' to even one of these questions, you are being emotionally blackmailed. Emotional blackmailers know and manipulate our vulnerabilities: they are our mothers, our partners, our bosses and colleagues. In 'Emotional Blackmail', Dr Susan Forward provides you with the means to change, enabling you to build new healthy relationships both with the blackmailers in your life and with yourself. She offers sound strategies for blackmail targets, practical scenarios and concrete communication techniques that will break the blackmail cycle for good.

"Susan Forward shines a light on relationships in her uniquely compassionate and dramatic way."
DR BARBARA DE ANGELIS, author of 'Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know'

About the Author:

Susan Forward, Ph.D., is an internationally acclaimed therapist, lecturer, and author. Her books -- which include the #1 New York Times bestsellers Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them and Toxic Parents, as well as Emotional Blackmail, Obsessive Love, Betrayal of Innocence, and Money Demons -- have been translated into more than fifteen languages. In addition to more than twenty years in private practice, she has served as a group therapist, instructor, and consultant in many Southern California medical and psychiatric facilities.She is much sought after as a guest in the media, and she hosted a daily national call-in radio program on ABC talk radio for six years.

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