Some Girls Do: Why Women Do and Don't Ask Men Out - Softcover

Leroy, Margaret

Softcover

ISBN 10: 0002555921 ISBN 13: 9780002555920

Publisher: HarperCollins, 1997

Synopsis

Women's lack of sexual assertiveness, particularly early in relationships, is one of the few areas to remain relatively untouched by feminist ideology. This work reveals the effects this passivity in courtship and relationships has on women's sense of themselves, their self-image, concern with their appearance, and their disgruntlement with men. Looking at female fantasy, date rape, masochism, male responses, the media, and drawing on literature, interviews and research, the book exposes the women's magazine industry, and finally suggests ways in which women can take control of their courtship rituals to become more assertive in all areas of their lives.

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Review:

‘Enlightening. Exhilarating. Confirms both the best and the worst of every woman’s experience.’
Ros Miles, author of The Women’s History of the World, on Margaret Leroy’s Pleasure

From the Back Cover:

When women say, "I'd love to ask men out but I simply couldn't', what are they so scared of?

When men say they'd adore it if women asked them out, do they mean what they say?

In many areas of life today, women assert themselves very successfully but, at the start of sexual relationships, men still pursue while women wait. Why does this continue to feel so right?

Women's traditional indirect ways of showing sexual interest – looks and smiles and sexy clothes – are still absolutely central to female identity. Asking men out is the last female taboo.

In spite of women's new affluence and independence, women who do make the first move – whether they are students or divorcees – may find themselves judged harshly by their friends and are warned from all sides of the dangers inherent in going out alone with relative strangers, in seeming 'easy'.

In this, the first book to examine the courtships of modern women, Margaret Leroy draws on interviews with both women and men, and on literature and research. She honestly and openly explores female fantasies and fears, the power of the media, magazines and films, our hopes and desires. She exposes hypocrisies and shows how women can take more control in this most sensitive aspect of their lives, and become more at ease, assertive and successful in the dating game.

Praise for 'Pleasure:
The Truth about Female Sexuality':
"Brilliantly explores and uncovers the world's best-kept secret"
KATE SAUNDERS

"Enlightening. Exhilarating"
ROS MILES

About this edition

• Publisher: HarperCollins
• Publication date: 1997
• ISBN 10: 0002555921
• ISBN 13: 9780002555920
• Binding: Paperback
• Number of pages: 320